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见证篇162.中年…

《小欢喜》背后，中年人的危机

剧情涵盖了中年危机的几种类型，方圆失业是职场危机，刘静患癌是健康危机，乔卫东出轨是情感危机。其实中年危机不是事情的危机，而是心的危机。上半场很给力的工作、婚姻、孩子，这时令人意兴阑珊。你对自己的人生满足吗？人到中年，危机暴露了我们为何而活。

《小欢喜》作为今年暑期的热播剧，剧中情节引发的话题频频上热搜榜。电视剧虽然讲述的是三家人的孩子面临高考的不同境遇，背后其实更反映了中年父母们特有的现象——中年危机。孩子不过是引爆危机的一个触点而已。

剧中，黄磊饰演的方圆，名牌大学毕业，原本是一家公司的元老。公司并购后，本以为要升职了，没想到全公司只有他一个人被辞退。45岁遭遇下岗，上有老、下有读高三的孩子，妻子也被降职。面对家庭的生活开销、孩子的教育支出，一直以来的稳定舒适被打破，方圆才发现自己竟然无所适从，最终崩溃大哭。

三个家庭所经历的危机大致上能够概括中年危机的几种类型：职业危机（方圆失业）、健康危机（刘静患癌）、经济危机（方圆父母被传销骗取80万）、情感危机（乔卫东出轨）。以上这些危机有一个共同的特点：变幻无常。它们都是我们难以控制的。当问题出现，我们才发现，原来我们认为自己能控制的东西，实际上却在控制着我们。

正是这样的经历，引起了众多中年父母们的共鸣。当类似的危机袭来，我们可以安全度过吗？

要么是危险，要么是转机

剧中几个家庭经历的戏剧化的情节，我们可称之为“触发事件”。对方圆来说，突然的失业触发了他的危机；对乔卫东和宋倩来说，离婚导致了整个家庭的危机；对季胜利来说，与孩子关系的破裂导致了危机。

三个家庭一开始没意识到在忙碌的生活中被忽视的问题，直到“触发事件”好像打开了他们的眼睛。他们所经历的并非坏事，他们得以通过这扇窗户进入自己从未有过的生活。我们可以肯定的是，当中年来临的时候，我们要么处在极大的危险中，要么处在人生的转机之中。

当一些东西从我们的手中被夺走时，人往往会变得恐惧、痛苦、不安或气馁。这恰恰暴露了我们真正为什么而活，究竟是什么事物在统治我们。无论事业、金钱、权力、爱情，当我们相信没有它们我们就无法生存，当这些事情消失或让我们失望的时候，我们就感觉生活也在离我们而去，我们已经迷失了方向。

也许你满眼都是自己的孩子。当他们离开家的时候，你觉得你的生活结束了，你不知道自己该怎么办。孩子就是你生活的全部意义，是你每天早上起床的动力，就像剧中的单亲妈妈宋倩一样。

有一次英子彻底奔溃，跑到海边准备自杀。直到这个时候，身为妈妈的宋倩还在追问：“妈妈只是不明白，不明白你为什么非要去上那个南大呀！”英子哭诉：“我不是非要去南大，我就是想要逃离你！”英子说：“你对我已经够好了，你每天给我做饭，给我上课，照顾我的生活。我知道你不容易，是我想太多，我，我配不上您给我的爱！”

对宋倩而言，女儿英子就是她的全部。甚至为了孩子，她可以忽略自己的喜怒哀乐。食品一定要最健康的，燕窝、海参，什么有营养做什么；学习要制定科学的计划，分秒必争，还要关注并监测成绩动态图；孩子的房间要隔音，还要在外边装上百叶窗便于观察。在宋倩眼里，这一切都是为了英子好，但是这些压得英子喘不过气。宋倩对女儿英子掌控的“爱”，让英子窒息。宋倩以伟大母爱之名，自私地剥夺了孩子的自由，因为一旦孩子独立，她就无以自处。

也许你最在意的是健康或者美貌，但中年人的健康和体型都已无法回到曾经的最佳状态。也许经济上的成功和物质上的安逸更能吸引你，以致于这些失去时，你就变得灰心不安。还有一种可能，你人生上半场拼搏得来的大房子还在，但豪华的装修、精致的家具已不再能吸引你的注意，高配置的汽车不再像刚换车的时候那样让你爱不释手，甚至连配偶也已经开始让你厌烦。

乔卫东经历的就是这样的危机。做大老板的他，房子车子样样有，大学恋情修成正果，妻子是老师，女儿是学霸。可人到中年，乔卫东却开始对生活不满。他嫌妻子管得紧，管自己“就像管儿子一样”。趁着妻子怀疑他出轨，乔卫东竟然一走了之，理由就是——嫌烦。从前觉得是“贤妻良母、事无巨细”，可人到中年，表面风光无限，内心却有说不出的压抑和苦衷，妻子的体贴对乔卫东来说渐渐不再是一种甜蜜，反倒成为负担。

这正是中年危机的典型表现之一：对生活的不满。突然，你开始环顾四周，你不喜欢你的生活。生活变得没有目标，例行公事，枯燥无味。你可能会经历持续不断的无聊、失望。最根本的是你对你经历的人生故事感到不满足。这种不满并不一定是针对某件特定的事情，而是一种普遍的不满情绪。

这些不满常在我们的内心盘旋，又找不到真正的解决希望时，人很容易被肉体的欲望操纵。乔卫东于是觉得妻子满足不了他，导致出轨。人会不断地寻找替代品企图满足自己。有些人在无法满足的时候会暴饮暴食，有些人会通过获得我们通常认为能让自己满意的东西来应对，也有一些人过度追求休闲或放纵来麻木自己，彻底失去了希望。

不是事情的危机，而是心的危机

我们都很容易被权力、成功、接纳、欣赏、财产、地位、尊重、表现、控制、舒适所诱惑。美国著名心理辅导事工机构创办人保罗·区普认为，中年危机从根本上根源于内心的偶像崇拜，这些偶像有着强大的诱惑力。

基督徒的生活也常会有这样的试探。当危机出现时，我们像以色列人在西奈山脚下一样，我们开始把自己奉献给其他事物。金牛犊是用人手打造的，它没有思想，没有感情，没有力量，也没有生命，只是一个无生命的物体。我们以自己没有意识到的方式，放弃了对神的信靠，将我们的心献给那些我们能够看到、听到、触摸到的事物。

这些事情成了我们的B计划。我们求它们给我们只有神才能给的东西。我们希望创造一些东西，能够给我们带来意义和目的，带来一种认同感和安全感。我们希望房子、汽车、事业、经历和人能满足我们的心。这些在剧中都有很真实的体现。

令人不安的是，人到中年时我们所崇拜的偶像时常暴露出它们根本无法兑现自己的承诺。想想看：以色列人所膜拜的金牛犊最终只会让人失望。任何被造的也是如此，它们永远无法填补我们心中的空虚。当我们一直信任的东西，例如身体、事业、家庭等，辜负了我们，我们就会变得悲伤、愤怒、沮丧。

对我们来说，重要的是要认识到，中年时期的挣扎是通向更深层次、更根本的挣扎的窗口。中年危机最基本的形式其实不是某件事情的危机，而是心的危机。

区普认为，有很多人处于所谓的中年危机，是因为他们不知道自己身份认同的来源。他们悲伤，并不仅仅是因为他们渐渐老了，或者永远不会实现他们的梦想，或者其他后悔的理由，而是因为他们把经历、人际关系或成功当作自己的身份。

区普说：“我向那些在中年迷失方向的人提供的建议越多，我就越相信，身份问题不仅是圣经故事中最重要的主题之一，也是中年危机的一个重要组成部分。我们一直被虚假的身份所诱惑，这将永远让我们失望。我们以为我们知道自己是谁，但突然之间就不清楚了。在这一刻，我们很像亚当、夏娃，或流浪的以色列人”。

别再被虚假的身份所诱惑

一旦我们把自己的成就视为一种身份，我们就会成为源源不断的潜在成功的奴隶。这意味着我们人生的目的来自于自己的才能和努力，所以我们不能说不，也不能慢下来。如果剥夺了我们为下一次成功而努力的能力，我们就会感到沮丧和懊恼。方圆感到沮丧，因为定义他价值的工作已经从他手中被夺走了。

如果我们像宋倩一样用孩子来定义自己的身份，孩子将来的成功以及对父母的回报就会成为我们生活的原动力。我们通过孩子间接地生活，仿佛子女的成功就是我们的成功。当我们需要孩子的成功来让自己感觉良好时，我们会尽一切可能支持他们获得成功。我们告诉自己，这是为了他们，但实际上，这是为了我们。中国人最不愿意说破的就是这一层。

我们变成了令人窒息、专横跋扈、痴迷于成功的父母，但我们对此却视而不见，因为我们总是能说这是为了孩子好。终于有一天，当我们的孩子开始离家上学、工作，我们变得不知所措。这是一种身份的丧失，仿佛我们正失去活着的理由。

我们知道身份会影响我们的思维、选择和行为，但我们很难正确地获得身份。这个问题是中年危机的重要组成部分。关键在于：当我们对自己身份的定义来自横向的因素，例如家庭、工作、婚姻、孩子、财产、外貌、成功、职位，我们就会遇到困惑和麻烦。因为本质上人应该从与造物主的纵向关系中定义自己。

以色列的国王大卫就是如此。当前半生的一切努力换回一个显赫的国王身份，大卫很难不把他的身份聚焦在王冠上。当多年的奋斗告一段落，人生进入中场休息时分，他百无聊赖地在王宫的平台上闲逛，偷窥到一个美貌的女子在洗澡。他犯下淫乱罪，娶了另一个男人的妻子，并安排谋杀了这个男人。上帝没有任他继续迷失，而是让他在危机里看到自己的败坏，他的国王身份不能救他。神把大卫从自我的骄傲和情欲中拯救出来，使他能在失望、软弱、迷惑和诱惑下站立起来。

当大卫把自己的身份聚焦在日光之上的神时，就能胜过艰苦困难的环境，甚至是亲生儿子的背叛。《诗篇》第3篇就是大卫在逃避他的儿子押沙龙时所写的。当他面对自己人生的危机时，他没有怀疑这么多年来顺服神是否值得。大卫所做的就是再次把自己放在天父的手中。他提醒自己，他是神的孩子，“耶和华是我四围的盾牌，是我的荣耀，又是叫我抬起头来的。”

我们对自己身份的认识，能够有力地塑造我们面对危机时的反应。许多人就是从中年开始体会失眠的滋味的。大卫实在是有理由度过一个个充满悲伤、不安的夜晚。但是他再次让我们感到惊讶，他不是一个愤怒的失眠症患者，因为他没有失去个人安全、稳定和喜乐的源头——那位能定义他身份的神。“我躺下睡觉，我醒着，耶和华都保佑我。虽有成万的百姓来周围攻击我，我也不怕。”

大卫的安全感不是来自地位、财产，而是来自他与神的关系。因为神是他安息的泉源，他可以像在王宫里一样，在旷野安然入睡。即使极度悲痛的时刻，他也能躺下来休息。大卫的经历让我们看到，人在中年时所遭遇的并不是上帝要你走投无路，而是欢迎你进入新的更美好生命所必须的蜕变的阵痛。当我们把自己活着的意义和价值聚焦在神里面时，我们的危机就会成为转机。

威尔斯比（Warren W. Wiersbe）博士写道：“中年？这只是一位慈爱的天父为我们预备的丰盛人生中的又一个阶段。我想继续成长……没有挑战就没有成长，没有变化就没有挑战。我年轻的时候，变化是一种享受；现在，它往往成为一种威胁。但我需要改变——更深入地经历、牢牢地把握那个不可动摇的国度。”

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「惟用爱心说诚实话，凡事长进，连于元首基督；」【弗4: 15】

基督教与其他宗教最大的不同，就是基督教有基督是道路，所以能接触到真神；其他宗教则没有道路，所以无论怎样敬拜，仍是枉然。

路是给人走的。人若单单知道某条路是通往何处，而不真正的走在那条路上，就永远达不到目的地。人若不接受基督，就永远不能亲近神。

基督是真理；祂不但教导真理，祂自己就是真理。祂的所是、所作、所有、所言、所行，在在都是真理。吾人若要明白真理，必须更多认识并经历基督。

若不借着基督，没有人能到父那里去：除祂以外，别无拯救；因为在天下人间，没有赐下别的名，我们可以靠着得救。

真实是指真实的事物。宇宙中真实的东西、实在的事物，乃是基督与教会。惟有说到基督与教会，我们才实际的摸着真实。这些报导不是真实，不是实际；相反的，这些报导很空洞。基督与教会之外的任何事物，都是虚空不实。我若没有基督，我整个人都是虚空的。

一个人也许是钜富，资产丰饶雄厚，但他若没有基督，这一切财富都不过是虚空。传道书说，凡事都是虚空。在基督与教会之外，没有一样是真实的，没有一样是实在的。对那些爱主耶稣并为着今日教会生活的人，宇宙中惟一的实际乃是基督与教会。

我们也许天天谈论许多的事，但我们若不是说到基督与教会，我们所摸着的不过是虚空，我们并不是摸着实际。奉主蒙恩! 阿们!   

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「因为这不是虚空、与你们无关的事，乃是你们的生命；在你们过约但河要得为业的地上必因这事日子得以长久。”」【申32: 47】    

神的话「不是虚空、与你们无关的事，乃是你们的生命」，因此，我们不能把圣经放在书架上蒙灰尘，应当放在心上，以身作则地教导儿女谨守遵行。并以生命影响生命。

当你从神的信息中得到智彗，就会想要把它应用在生活里，并且告知亲友。圣经不但是一部宜于阅读真理的好书，更是属灵生命的实用指引。

既然我已经寻求神、考查祂的圣言，为了 发现要给你什么样的劝告；因此，你要抱着永生神的道所要求的敬畏，想要顺服的心态，接受这指导。

神对我们说：在你尚未离世前，我不想用永远悲惨的思想烦你、或 折磨你，除非我是要你赶快逃命。如果你已无药可救，被预定在你现在的悲惨中，我应该不理你，才算是怜悯你，好让你尽力去获得这世界所能给你渺小的安慰。但，你仍有机会获得快乐，只要你不蓄意拒绝得救的机会。看啊！我给你开门； 起来逃命。我把得生命的道路摆在你面前，你要行走在其间，就必定得生命，不致死亡，反得永生。

恶人灭亡是自己的选择。创造他们的神向他们呼叫，就像保罗向即将自杀的狱卒呼叫一样，说：“不要伤害自己。” 基督的仆人警告他们，甚至安慰他们，希望他们悔改；但，人在发怜悯的神看着他 们时，居然不听而故意要跳迸灭亡的坑里。

当人确定的真理，就是你无法在未曾归正的光景中上天堂；基督告诉我们，除非你重生归正，否则祂永远不会拯救你。祂手上不是拿着天 国的钥匙吗？难道你没有祂的答应还是进得去吗？你在属血气的光景中，没有完全彻底的归正，你永远不能进天国。

除非人感觉到劳苦担重担、扎心、厌倦犯罪，否则他们决不会来就基督得医治，也不会虔诚的问说：“我们当怎样行？”他们必然发现自己是死的、无望的，他们才会来到基督面前求饒恕得生命。所以，你要努力把所有的罪都摆在主面前；不要惧怕，完全交托。卸下重担，并要让你的心灵迫切寻求神的真理，也求永生神的指引。感谢神 ! 奉主蒙恩 ! 阿们 ! 

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「劝你们中间与我同作长老的人：也不是辖制所托付你们的，乃是作群羊的榜样。」【彼前5: 1,3】

神并未给任何人有全备的恩赐，乃是分配给各人独特的一份，好让我们彼此倚存，互相补满。恩赐是为了服事，而非自我炫耀；管家不拥有家产，但却负责管理分发家产。

每一个管家都要向他的主人交账；管家能否得到赏赐，不在乎所领受的是甚么恩赐，乃在乎有没有照神所交托的运用，或是否为神运用，抑或只为自己应用。主的工人都应站在管家的地位上，而不以主人自居；不论工作的成效如何伟大，都承认那本是他所应做的分，并无可夸之处。

因此，不仅使徒是管家，众圣徒都该是管家。长老不该把自己列在特别的一类，他们应该看自己是管家，正如众圣徒是管家一样。

在教会中没有等级这回事。相反的，我们都是神恩典的管家，并且我们都彼此服从。主若把你放在长老职分中，你不可骄傲。不要以为你比别人高，也不要辖管教会，好像教会是你自己的东西。相反的，作为带领的人，你应当立下榜样给圣徒跟随。

只有那些在灵里看见基督受苦的人，才有资格作长老，去看顾那些为神的旨意而受苦的信徒们。榜样之建立，与因辖制而生的作用截然不同。榜样是叫人羡慕，人人都愿学效；辖制则是勉强别人遵从。

长老最常犯的毛病就是怠惰、贪婪和弄权，并且甚么样的长老，就带出甚么样的信徒来，所以长老应当以身作则。

当圣徒们看见带领的人给他们立下榜样。’借着立下榜样并跟随榜样，至终我们都一同服事，作神诸般恩典的管家。这是正当的教会生活，没有组织，没有等级，没有阶级制度，没有圣品阶级和平信徒之分。

为使召会正确的往前，有些弟兄需要顾到行政一面的事务；但这并不就使他们成为主管，而使其他圣徒成为他们的下属。在召会生活中，…我们只有一位王，就是主耶稣基督，我们都是祂的属民。奉主蒙恩! 阿们!    

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“God loves reluctant leaders”, no leader volunteers to stand before God, because reluctant leaders are not easily tempted by power, pride, and ambition. They know the truth about leadership, they must sacrifice themselves, they must be broken, so if it is for their own comfort, they resolutely refuse.

A friend has participated in a training on successful learning. In one class, one person sits in the middle, and other students form a circle, criticizing a certain point of view or practice of the middleman with various negative words such as belittling, scolding, and ridiculing. It is said that this can exercise people’s “psychological endurance”. Others let practitioners go to the streets to beg, and then send the money from begging to nursing homes.

Many of the most popular books in the market are about how to be successful and how to manage. Open it and look at it, remove the superficial layer of fashionable new terms, and some hidden values ​​are as decadent as Qin Shihuang’s policy program. Those who believe that “a man should be cruel to himself” and endure the unbearable in order to succeed are just modern copies of Han Fei, Li Si, Qin Shihuang, and others who believe that human nature is evil and fanatically pursue success. The most explicit expression is Ma Yun’s sentence: When you are successful, everything you say is the truth.

From the perspective of psychoanalysis, a psychologist believes that there is often a kind of “inferiority” hidden behind such a strong motivation for success in Legalism. They are very confident on the surface, but in fact, this kind of self-confidence is just a compensatory psychology caused by their distrust of others. These people are not lacking in ability, but from a mental health point of view, they are often the most unhealthy people. The methods they use to manage the team are nothing more than the old three of “law, art, and power”-the law of rewards and punishments, the art of deception, and status and power.

Is this the truth about Chinese management and leadership?

In recent years, some high-end training often talks about Jewish wisdom. In history, there was a great Jewish leader—Moses. His life as a leader is exactly in contrast to many phenomena in Chinese culture.

Be a leader as a “nurturing father”

The “Bible’s Old Testament” records another ancient nation in the east – the outstanding leader among the Israelites, and Moses is one of the most respected. He received the mission from God to lead the men, women, and children of the entire Jewish nation to escape from Egypt, make a strategic shift, and enter the land of Canaan.

The “Bible” does not beautify the various unbearable behaviors of the compatriots he led. Whenever they encountered a little difficulty, they wanted to run back to Egypt and continue to be slaves. They ate Egyptian meat pots, cucumbers, and leeks, which tasted similar to Chinese people. And he was able to lead such a large group of “unscrupulous” subordinates, endure their complaints, forgives their offenses, and pray for God’s grace and mercy for them, not just a day or two, but forty years!

In the end, because they were irritated by their disappointment, they were forbidden by God to enter Canaan, which was close at hand.

According to the records of the Old Testament, Moses’ life was divided into three stages: the first forty years because he was adopted by the princess of the Egyptian Pharaoh and became the prince of Egypt; years as a shepherd; the last forty years as a leader leading the Israelites out of Egypt.

But behind Moses’ halo, we hear him complaining to God about his own suffering as a leader: “Why did you treat your servant so hard, why didn’t I find favor in your eyes, and put this burden of government over my people on me? Was these people my womb, was it my birth? You said to me, ‘Take them up in your arms like a foster father with a suckling child until you have sworn to give them go to the land of our ancestors’… The responsibility of managing this person is too heavy for me to bear alone. If you treat me like this, if I find favor in your eyes, please kill me immediately, and don’t let me see my own misery .”

The prayer in which Moses poured out his heart to God under extreme pressure revealed a detail, that is, God required Moses as a leader to be responsible for the lives of the led like a father, “like a nurturing father”. It can be seen that an important characteristic of a leader is to be like a mature father.

I often think, if the leaders of all major units are people who have really raised children, have seen how difficult life growth is, and as long as they work hard, they will really see the results. Wouldn’t it be possible to avoid many mistakes of eagerness for quick success and instant benefit, harsh criticism, and suppression? Woolen cloth?

But who was Moses’ father? The literature of the Israelites records only that he was a Levite named “Amram”. Because of the experience of being abandoned, his family life is incomplete and deformed. Although his biological mother was taken to the palace by the princess who adopted him to be his wet nurse, his father figure is undoubtedly missing. This negative influence is a big challenge for him to become a leader in the future.

During his forty years as a prince, Moses “learned all the knowledge of the Egyptians, and was able to speak and act.” He is also full of self-confidence, feeling that “I can” in everything, and sometimes it is obviously his own blood, and he thinks that he is doing justice for the sky and resisting the persecution of Pharaoh.

Moses originally thought that with his status and ability, if he called out from the heights, there would be crowds of people responding. But his assumption was completely wrong. When he went to mediate the disputes among his compatriots, they questioned his qualifications, “Who made you our leader and judge?” An Egyptian’s “criminal record”.

The absence of his father made him unaware that the authority of a leader, just like his father’s authority at home, needs to be established with long-term love. Propaganda, corporate culture, and promulgation of laws and regulations will not play any essential role. Before Moses established the prestige of leadership, he took it for granted that he could lead and exercise leadership by gift and blood, which naturally caused a backlash and failure was inevitable.

To be a leader is to realize your own incompetence
There is a Weibo joke on Xinhuanet: Recently, the abilities of some leaders in various places have been greatly improved: some can hold umbrellas by themselves, some can open doors by themselves, some can carry bags by themselves, some can hold water glasses by themselves, some I actually wrote the speech myself… In fact, the people’s expectations for leaders are not very high, as long as they can take care of themselves basically!

Comparing the so-called leadership in the above situation, it is not difficult to understand why God valued Moses. Although Moses’ method of seeing injustice was inappropriate, his motivation was what God valued: He saw the responsibility that he could do in the needs and mistakes of others. This is the most important quality of a leader – willingness to take responsibility and willingness to give. He never lost his sense of responsibility and courage, even when he fled to Midian and saw the seven daughters of the local priest being bullied, he still stood up to help.

Moses was exiled to Midian and made a living by herding sheep. In the second forty years of his life, God spent time and space in the wilderness to hone this self-righteous prince until he realized his own impotence-“Who am I to go to Pharaoh and destroy Israel? brought it out of Egypt?”

In order for Moses to lead others, he had to suffer through his own lack of leadership skills. He first had to deal with his own feelings of powerlessness and unwantedness, doubts that the Israelites would listen to him, and pained by his clumsy tongue.
But Moses’ self-doubt did not prevent God from giving him the task of leadership. We have found a very thought-provoking phenomenon in the history of the Jews, that is, God only chooses those who are unwilling to be leaders.

American scholar Allen De came to a wise conclusion in the book “The Faltering Leader”, “God likes reluctant leaders”. No leader volunteers to stand before God because reluctant leaders are not easily affected by The allure of power, pride, and ambition. They know the truth about leadership, they must deny themselves, and they must be broken. Therefore, if it is for their own comfort, they resolutely refuse. They don’t aspire to be bigger, better, and more, and they don’t think it’s okay to “make it happen” and ask others to bleed for their ideals.

Aiming at Moses’ impulsive and fleshly weaknesses exposed when he was young, God let him work with sheep every day, grinding him bit by bit. As for the practice of family life, I think it also helped him a lot. Perhaps he discovered that the first person to challenge his authority as a leader and test his forbearance was none other than his wife and children. If he could not lead them well, How could he lead millions of Israelites?

This was very important to Moses. On the surface, he won a marriage for himself because he saved the daughter of the priest of Midian. In fact, this family saved him, especially the father-in-law a father who provided him with the same-sex affirmation and acceptance that are necessary for the growth of a man. Moses learned to be a husband, a father, and a shepherd during this time. Later, his father-in-law also became his management consultant when he was the leader, and gave him suggestions on building a team through authorization and avoiding authoritarianism. There is a mature father figure to assist, which helps Moses avoid many detours.

Interestingly, Confucius and Mencius, the founders of Confucianism who had the greatest impact on Chinese culture, lost their father at the age of three, while Mencius lost his father at the age of two. They also lacked a father’s role model in their growth experience.

Scholar Zhu Jianjun wrote in “China’s Human Heart and Culture” that his father’s early death prevented Confucius from having the opportunity to understand that a real father always has both advantages and disadvantages. The father in fantasy can be perfect, and Confucius often dreamed of the Duke of Zhou. In the mind of the son, this father can almost be a god. Confucius then had the same fantasy about the king, hoping and believing that the king would love his subjects like a kind father loves his children.

But the best fathers are not gods, and the best leaders are also people who make mistakes. This seems to be common sense, but it is not easy for someone who grew up in a family without a father figure to understand. The disadvantage of the result is that the Confucian culture lacks an effective restraint mechanism for the possible problems of the king. Too idealistic about the “monarch father”, with too much expectation and too little precaution, causing the people of the country to be injured repeatedly.
To whom does the leader’s psychological garbage go?

In the third forty years of his life, Moses realized that no matter whether he thought he was a thorn or dross or was despised by the world or rejected by his fellow countrymen, as long as he was willing, God would add His own power to him who was weak. He knew he was relying on God, who made him a leader.

Jack Welch, the former CEO of General Electric Company in the United States, had a classic summary of what a leader is. In his view, a leader should have a vision and make the team share his vision, be full of energy and infect the passion of the whole team, and should dare to try challenging tasks and make difficult but meaningful decisions. This definition is like it was made for Moses, except that Moses’ vision came from God.
Therefore, when the Israelites fought against their enemies, Moses did not choose to take the lead but went up the mountain to call on God for the people. He correctly maintained the relationship with God, and he knew that only the power of God could help the people to win, instead of being brave and rushing into the fighting team to win the applause of the crowd for a while.

Some economists believe that there is a transactional relationship between leaders and the masses. People ceded control to their leaders and expected rewards from their leaders: when danger and persecution came, they expected the leader to be the one who could take the risk for everyone. Once they doubted their rewards, the leader would not be popular.

Therefore, whenever there is discomfort, people will resent and rebel. Moses even encountered the jealousy and slander of his relatives and assistants Aaron and Miriam, as well as the rebellion of Korah’s party. His handling was “exceedingly humble, more than any man in the world.”

By constantly turning to God, Moses poured out his inner negative feelings to God, not being infected by it, and even collapsed before God, and then returned to the people. It wasn’t that Moses was strong psychologically, but that his relationship with God enabled him to go before God at any time to unload his burden and regain his strength. Think about Jobs, he regarded the employees of the Apple empire as his “subjects”, vented his dissatisfaction at will, and spoke harshly. It is hard to expect such a man to be competent for the role of father, so I saw media reports that he could not accept himself before his death His own daughter is not surprising.

In addition, Moses was able to handle his aggressive personality well. In fact, everyone has a more or less aggressive character in their hearts. Whether a man can become a mature man or become a yes answerer often depends on whether he can handle an aggressive personality well. This kind of aggressiveness was manifested in his killing when he was young, and although he was gentle and humble afterward, he still sometimes had a violent temper.

He broke the tablets of the law, wrestled and accused God when he was talking to God, and never gave up easily. Aggression also helps him persevere in reaching his goals without giving up. Moses often climbed the mountain alone and retreated on the mountain. These exercises helped him deal with and properly use his aggressive personality and became a source of strength for God. If Moses tried to defuse his aggressiveness by constantly finding new enemies or launching new movements for the group he led, it would undoubtedly lead to disaster for the Jewish nation.

Although Moses was reused, mistakes were inevitable. He was stirred up at Kadesh by the people asking for water, and he did not sanctify God and suffered loss himself. He accepts his dark side flares up. Only those who allow themselves to make mistakes will allow others to make mistakes, truly accept others, and lead a good team. Moses paid the price of not being able to enter the Promised Land, but he never complained about why God was so strict with him. There are powerful enemies or persecutions outside, which will never be an excuse for a godly leader to let go of his own sins. Because he is the leader, a little pride in the leader will encourage the whole country to flatter.

Moses was not born to be a leader. His first attempt at leadership failed miserably and he was forced into exile for forty years, which shadowed his leadership nightmare. The good thing is that God never uses a great man, but a man who preaches a great God. In the process of co-working with God, his character was re-established, showing excellent leadership qualities and leadership skills.

The “Bible” truly records the strengths, weaknesses, and mistakes of every great figure in the history of Israel. It can be said that it is a book that records the truth about leaders. In some whitewashed cultures, the truth of the leader is the most hidden part, and people are deceived and deceived. Maybe people don’t like it, so when more than 2,000 employees from different companies were asked to list the leadership qualities they valued most, integrity and honesty ranked first, followed by competence.

Companies in the world are still like this, and faith groups should introspect themselves.

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When the pastors and singers who stand in the center of the stage become dazzling leaders with their talents, they are not praising a Savior, but just looking for an audience; they are not loving God, but thinking of God when they speak or sing. time issue. The greatest danger is not outside, but we must see clearly the tendency of “faith derailment” in ourselves, just like the Israelites who easily deviate from God.

“Apostasy” has been a hot topic among Christians for the past few weeks. A few weeks ago, Joshua Harris, author of the best-selling book “Dating No More” and former senior pastor of the megachurch Covenant Life Church in Maryland, USA, just posted a message on his personal social networking site Instagram, announcing that Divorced his wife and declared himself no longer a Christian.

Shortly thereafter, Hillsong Church worship singer and music writer Marty Sampson posted on Instagram, declaring that “I’ve literally lost my faith.” The Hillsong worship singer who has been in the Hillsong Choir since she was 16 years old has composed many familiar gospel hymns, such as “All I Need Is You” and “Forever”.

He raised many questions: “Why do many pastors fall? Why is the Bible full of contradictions? Why does God love the world but send 4 billion people to hell because they don’t believe in God?” No one discussed this, and no one told him the answer . He added that a Christian can be the most judgmental person on the planet, but he can also be the most beautiful and caring person, but none of that is for him. He still longs for truth, but he thinks it’s not just God’s version of truth.

In an updated version of his clarification on Aug. 13, Sampson said that while he hadn’t “renounced” his Christian faith, it was still in a “shaky state.” Sampson disclosed: “I have been continually analyzing the arguments of prominent Christian apologists and biblical scholars, opening my mind to the comments of atheists and other religions. If the truth is true, no matter how I interpret it, it is not It will go bad; if I find it, it will definitely be clearer to see it’s real. Examining the diamond closely will reveal the quality of the diamond. As long as I’m alive, I’ll keep learning.”

Marty Sampson – Why do young people give up their faith?

All of a sudden, many pastors and scholars stood up and spoke. Because Hillsong’s music worship is too famous. As the most popular contemporary Christian band, Hillsong has won several awards, not only has a wide influence in the Lord, 50 million people sing their songs every Sunday, and has successfully entered the mainstream music circle, selling more than 16 million copies record. Therefore, it is not an exaggeration to say that Sampson’s statement “shocked hundreds of millions of people”.

Apologetist Michael Brown said he prayed for Sampson that he would sincerely seek the truth “with humility and zeal, with a heart of integrity. All people with problems should put their problems to rest.” Come out. . . . Don’t just look at the surface, be sure to seek God first. Let’s pray that Sampson will be turned and restored.”

Ken Ham, the founding CEO of Answers in Genesis, another apologetics organization, said of Sampson on Twitter that this is a reminder for the church and Christian parents. Sadly, “young people are taught by church leaders to believe that the death, pain, and sickness we see today has persisted for millions of years and is God’s fault. But death, sickness, and pain are the result of man’s sin as a result of.”

John Cooper, also a gospel singer, said that Sampson thought he was the only one asking these questions, when in fact “the church has been arguing about it for over 1,500 years, and books on similar topics have sold hundreds of millions.  … We’re in danger when the church uses a worship singer in his 20s as a source of some truth. Singers aren’t the best people to write with solid biblical truth and relevant doctrine.”

In fact, the doubts about Hillsong worship music have long been heard in the Lord. The “New York Times” mentioned in a music review in 2014 that traditional evangelical churches in the United States believe that Hillsong’s theology is weak, and that it is a new version of prosperity theology for young people and so on. However, the criticism of Hillsong’s innovative worship style should not prevent us from deeply reflecting on why the church cannot attract young people. Everyone is flocking to Hillsong?

Prominent Christian author Drew Dyck expressed “sadness” over Sampson’s statement. He once analyzed in the book that in the 1980s, business thinking swept the church and changed the missionary methods of many churches in North America. Youth ministry has been most affected. Instead of focusing on making disciples, the church focuses on how to attract and keep a lot of kids happy. It may have been well-intentioned, but it had unintended consequences. Today, youth ministries in many churches have effectively been reduced to using violent video game parties on Friday nights to draw students in.

Someone described youth fellowships at most churches as “holding a plate full of pizza.” Why, Dyke asked, do so many kids who were active in youth groups leave the faith? His answer was simple: “Let’s face it, there are a lot more fun things to do in college than eat pizza.”

Dyke refers to a class of people who leave their faith as “moral rebels.” Beneath their rebellious tendencies is a strong desire for adventure and purpose. They are usually the kind of people who have an irrepressible desire to live life to the fullest, even if it means taking risks. Unfortunately, when people show them a gospel that is risk-free, sacrifice-free, risk-free, diluted, and unworthy of their offerings, they will seek to satisfy their desires in other ways.

Jim Rayburn, founder of Young Living, said, “Somehow we thought we could water down the gospel and make it more accessible to young people. But it turns out they’re choking on our concoction. They don’t want trendy slogans, they don’t want pizza and video games. They want the naked truth, they want change and life. They want a truth they live for and die for. In other words, they want the real Gospel.”

The elders do have the right to speak in the church, and they can ask the new generation to sit in the chairs of the church and sing traditional hymns with them from beginning to end. What they need to be reminded is, in order to gain the younger generation, are they willing to sacrifice themselves and take the initiative to approach young people across the generation gap in terms of aesthetic taste? Have they tried their best to “give the best to God” musically?

And in a superficial Christian culture sweeping the contemporary age, sacrifice and suffering are less and less mentioned, and the sense of self is paid more attention to. Gospel bands with a new style of worship are undoubtedly more willing to be close to young people in terms of musical tastes, but they have to go back to the root problem: the center of worship is not human aesthetic enjoyment. Music can serve people’s feelings, but feelings are not God.

Joshua Harris – The greatest threat is within us

Both Joshua Harris and Marty Sampson came from megachurches with different denominational backgrounds, and many of Harris’ fans were once Hillsong’s most ardent critics. Recently they are often discussed together by the media.

As an important member of the YRR (Young Reformed Movement) in the United States, before Harris announced his departure from the Christian faith, there had been many news stories about youth leaders being forced to leave their posts in this movement. An article published on the website of the “Gospel Coalition” listed the reflections of several American pastors: The reason for this phenomenon is that these gifted young brothers were too quickly put in the spotlight.

Not long ago, there was a video on Youtube titled “How l lost faith in the mega-church” (How l lost faith in the mega-church). The autobiography of a couple who are also worship leaders of mega-churches exposes the problems that are prone to occur in this kind of church pastoral care. In the center of the huge stage, in order to attract more people’s attention, some gifted and enthusiastic young shepherds and musicians became eye-catching stars by virtue of their talents, until one day, they were raised to the point where Satan was enough to Use their breaches to cause more people to fall or be frustrated. No matter what denomination you are in, the number, effect, and applause always try to become the center of Sunday worship. This is the time when we should be most vigilant.

Bob Kauflin, also a worship leader, has also been “shaky” in his nearly three decades of service, having struggled with depression and anxiety for three years. After constant prayer, Bible reading, and reflection, he discovered that the root of the problem was that his worship was in the wrong direction. False worship is idolatry, where man seeks satisfaction in something other than God, seeks praise for his accomplishments, and is not praising a Savior, but merely seeking an audience. “My world fell apart when I couldn’t get the glory I craved”.

He thinks one of the things that is so bad right now is that worship is generally considered to be something we do only when we sing and is seen by many young people as an emotional experience driven by music, pursuing their own religious experience, and belonging in singing. spiritual experience, not Jesus. Music is part of worshiping God, but it was never at the heart of worshiping God. “A true worshiper doesn’t just think of God, but loves God,” he reminded.

If we sing the song of promise while committing unrepentant sin in the hope of impressing others or “fooling” God with our spirituality and talents, we are hypocrites, no different than unbelievers. We need to go to the foot of the cross so that we can experience the fruit of repentance.

Someone who has written a best-selling book, won a gospel music award, and preached all over the world does not guarantee that he is a true believer. These recent examples are not the first in Christian history, nor will they be the last. When we see those who stray from their faith, we must understand that they are no different from us, we all have a tendency to “faith stray”. But God in His mercy continually draws us and renews our love for Him. When we see those who have left the faith, we are compelled to repent with awe and humility.

In fact, the greatest challenge is not any dark forces gathering outside the church walls. On the contrary, the greatest danger to Christianity is precisely the Christians. Not what happened outside, but ourselves. It is a natural tendency, just like the people of Israel, to stray from God and lose our first love. The greatest threat to Israel was not the Philistines or the Babylonians, but their deadly tendency to abandon the Lord God. We, too, tend to preach Christianity without the cross, thereby disempowering the gospel and making it less attractive to follow God.

“It’s not too late to come back, my arms are still open”

Since the Christian’s way of life is the way of faith, it will inevitably encounter various dangers. These dangers threaten to destroy us and plunge us into the abyss of unbelief, apostasy, and death. But God has given us the assurance of salvation. The method God uses to protect us is faith, but our faith must be tested. The trials we face, the hardships and hardships in the world, the temptation of the flesh, and the temptation of the devil, all tempt us to give up our faith all the time. As the apostle Peter said, it is through the testing of faith that we gain true faith, which is more precious than gold.

This truth was especially precious to Peter. Before Jesus was betrayed, he said to Peter, “Simon! Simon! Satan wants to have you so that he can sift you like wheat; but I have prayed for you so that your faith will not fail. When you turn back, you must Strengthen your brother.” Jesus’ prayer was that Peter’s faith should not be completely lost. And who lived through that dreadful night, who brought Peter back from the precipice of unbelief, and made him shed tears of remorse? It was the power of God who preserved and strengthened Peter’s faith, just as He continues to strengthen His beloved children today.

Robert Peterson tells an inspiring story in his book Our Safe Salvation. When a brother named Paul was studying in seminary, something terrible happened in the church he was in. An elder had an affair with another elder’s wife. They carefully prepared a detailed elopement plan, including mailing resignation letters to the church.

But they seriously underestimated two things: the love of the church brothers and sisters for the Lord and for them. On Sunday the sad news was announced to the congregation, and people wept and prayed publicly for the couple’s crime and their devastated family. Church leaders and believers gathered around the two wounded families and openly admitted that adultery was on their minds. The awe of God’s holiness is like that of the believers in the early church in the book of Acts.

The Church promises not to abandon the erring pair. The church reached out to them and assured them that the congregation would not stop praying for them. At first, the elopement couple hoped the words were empty clichés, but time proved that the church’s love for them was genuine. Many prayer meetings are scheduled at different times of the day and night. After months of prayer and many gentle touches with them, God finally broke in. The congregation cheered when the pastor announced that the couple had repented and wanted to return. The pastor went on to say that both parties are currently ashamed to face family and church members. After weeks of counseling, the two families were reunited and they both returned to church. Brothers and sisters welcome repentant men and women with outstretched arms and weeping with joy.

From it, we can see God’s love for the church and his unrelenting love for each of His chosen people, just as a shepherd will try his best to save the lost sheep. The arm of the Good Shepherd is not over the precipice but over the rough and terrible cross. It is there that the Good Shepherd issues his most sincere invitation, even to those who reject him. He seems to be saying, “It’s not too late to come back, my arms are still open.” Welcome every prodigal son home to the joy of worship and His everlasting love.

见证篇161.信仰…

当站在舞台中央的牧者、歌手凭才华成为耀眼的领袖，不是在赞美一位救主，而只是在寻找一位听众；不是在爱神，而只是在演讲或唱歌时想到神，跌倒只是时间问题。最大的危险不在外面，而是我们必须看清自己里面“信仰出轨”的倾向，就像以色列民一样容易偏离神。

在过去的几周里，“背教”一直是基督徒的热门话题。几周前，畅销书《不再约会》的作者、美国马里兰州巨型教会圣约生命教会的前主任牧师约书亚·哈里斯（Joshua Harris）刚刚在个人社交网站Instagram上发了一条消息，宣布与妻子离婚，宣称自己不再是基督徒。

之后不久，新颂教会（Hillsong Church）的敬拜团歌手、音乐作家马帝·桑普森（Marty Sampson）在Instagram上发文，宣布“我真的失去了信仰”。这位16岁起就在新颂赞美诗班的敬拜歌手，创作了许多耳熟能详的福音诗歌，诸如 “All I Need Is You”、“Forever”。

他提出多项质疑：“为什么很多牧师堕落？为什么圣经充满矛盾？为什么神爱世人但竟然将40亿人送到地狱，原因只是他们不相信神？”这一切没有人讨论，没有人告诉他答案。他又说，基督徒可以成为在这个星球上最爱论断的人，但也可以成为最美丽和有爱心的人，不过这一切都不适合他。他仍渴望真理，但他认为真理不单只有上帝的版本。

8月13日，在最新版本的澄清声明中，桑普森说，虽然他还未“放弃”基督信仰，仍已经处在“摇摇欲坠”的状态。桑普森披露：“我已经在持续地分析著名基督教护教者与圣经学者的论点，敞开心去思考无神论者及其他宗教的评论。如果真理是真的，无论我如何解释它，它都不会变质；如果我找到它，肯定会更清楚地看见这是真实的。仔细检查钻石，能发现钻石的质量。只要我还活着，我会持续学习。”

马帝·桑普森

年轻人为何放弃信仰？

一时间，多位牧师、学者站出来发言。因为新颂的音乐敬拜实在太有名了。作为当代最受欢迎的基督教乐队，新颂几度获奖，不但在主内影响广泛，每个主日有5000万人在唱他们的歌，并且成功进入了主流音乐圈，卖出超过1600万张唱片。因此说桑普森的声明“惊呆了上亿人”，一点也不夸张。

护教学家迈克尔・布朗（Michael Brown）表示，他为桑普森祈祷，希望他能“带着谦卑和热忱，以一颗正直的内心去真诚寻求真理。所有有问题的人都应该把问题摆出来。……不要只看表面上的东西，一定要首先来寻求神。让我们祈祷桑普森能够回转、被恢复。”

另一个护教学组织Answers in Genesis 的创始CEO肯·汉姆（Ken Ham）在Twitter上谈及桑普森时认为，这对教会和基督徒父母是个提醒。可悲的是，“年轻人受教会领袖的教导影响，相信现今所见的死亡、痛苦、疾病已持续数百万年，都是神的错。但死亡、疾病、痛苦是人的罪带来的后果。”

同样作为福音乐队歌手的约翰·库珀（John Cooper）说，桑普森以为这些问题只有他在问，其实“教会已经为此争论了1500多年，类似主题的书有上亿销量。当教会把20多岁的敬拜歌手当作某些真理的源头时，我们已经身处险境了。歌手并非写出带有稳固圣经真理和相关教义的最佳人选。”

其实主内对新颂敬拜音乐的质疑早有耳闻。《纽约时报》2014年就在一篇乐评中提到美国传统福音派教会认为新颂的神学单薄，是为年轻人打造的新版成功神学等等。然而对新颂创新的敬拜风格的批评，却不应该成为阻拦我们深入地反思，为何教会无法吸引年轻人？大家却对新颂趋之若鹜？

著名基督教作家德鲁·戴克（Drew Dyck）对桑普森的表态感到“悲哀”。他曾在书中分析，1980年代，商业思维席卷教会，改变了北美许多教会的传教方式。青年事工受到的影响最明显。教会不是把重点放在门徒训练上，而是把注意力放在如何吸引大量的孩子并让他们开心。或许是好意，但却产生了意想不到的恶果。今天，许多教会的青年事工实际上已经沦落到周五晚上利用暴力视频游戏派对来吸引学生参加的地步。

有人将大多数教会的青年团契描述为“拿着装满披萨的盘子”。戴克问到，为什么有那么多曾经活跃在青年团契里的孩子后来离开了信仰？他的回答很简单：“让我们面对现实吧，在大学里有很多比吃披萨更有趣的事情可以做。”

戴克提到离弃信仰的人中，有一类属于“道德反叛者”。在他们的叛逆倾向下隐藏着对冒险和目标的强烈渴望。他们通常是那种有一种无法抑制的欲望，想要活得最充实的人，即使这意味着冒险。不幸的是，当人们向他们展示一个没有冒险、没有牺牲、没有风险、被稀释的福音，不配得到他们的奉献，他们就会寻求以其他方式来满足他们的欲望。

“年轻生活”的创始人吉姆·雷伯恩（Jim Rayburn）说，“不知何故，我们认为我们可以淡化福音，让年轻人更容易接受。但事实证明，他们正在被我们的混合物呛到。他们不想要时尚的口号，不想要披萨和电子游戏。他们想要赤裸裸的真相，想要改变和生命。他们想要一个为之而生、为之而死的真理。换句话说，他们想要真正的福音。”

长辈们在教会里的确有话语权，可以要求新生代呆坐在教会的椅子上从头到尾跟着他们唱传统圣诗。他们需要被提醒的是，为了得着年轻一代，他们是否甘愿舍己，在审美趣味上跨过代沟主动靠近青年？他们是否已经尽心尽力在音乐上“将最好的献给神”？

而在席卷当代的一种肤浅的基督教文化中，牺牲和痛苦越来越少被提及，自我的感觉反而被格外重视。新型敬拜风格的福音乐队，无疑更愿意在音乐口味上贴近年轻人，却不得不回到根源问题上：敬拜的中心并不是人的审美享受。音乐可以服侍人的感觉，但感觉不是神。

约书亚·哈里斯 – 最大的威胁就在我们里面

无论约书亚·哈里斯，还是马帝·桑普森，他们都来自巨型教会，两人的宗派背景不同，哈里斯的许多粉丝曾经是新颂最执着的批评者。近来他们常被媒体放在一起谈论。

作为美国YRR（年轻的改革宗运动）的重要成员，在哈里斯宣布离开基督信仰之前，这一运动已经发生多起青年领袖被迫离开服侍岗位的新闻。刊发在“福音联盟”网站上的一篇文章，列出了几位美国牧者的反思：造成这一现象的原因，是这些有恩赐的年轻弟兄被过快地放到了聚光灯下。

前不久，Youtube网站上有一个名为《我怎样在巨型教会中失去信仰》的视频（How l lost faith in the mega church），从同样身为巨型教会敬拜领袖的一对夫妇的自述中，暴露出这类教会牧养中容易出现的问题。在巨大的舞台中央，为了吸引更多人的关注，一些有恩赐和热情的年轻牧者和音乐人靠才华成为引人注目的明星，直到有一天，他们被抬高到一个地步，撒但足以利用他们的破口让更多人跌倒或受挫。不论在什么宗派中，人数、效果、掌声总是企图成为周日敬拜的中心，这就是我们最该警醒的时候。

同为敬拜领袖的鲍伯·考夫林（Bob Kauflin），在近三十年的服侍中，他也曾“摇摇欲坠”，有过三年与抑郁、焦虑作斗争的经历。经过不断祈祷、读经和反省，他发现问题的根源是他的敬拜方向错了。错误的崇拜就是偶像崇拜，人寻求在除神以外的其他东西上获得满足，为自己的成就寻求赞扬，并不是在赞美一位救主，而只是在寻找一位听众。“当我不能得到我渴望的荣耀时，我的世界崩溃了”。

他认为现在很糟糕的一件事是，敬拜普遍被认为仅仅是我们唱歌时所做的事，被许多年轻人当作是由音乐驱动的情感体验，在歌声中追求自己的宗教体验和属灵经历，而不是耶稣。音乐是敬拜上帝的一部分，但它从来就不是敬拜上帝的核心。他提醒道：“真正的敬拜者不只是想到神，而是爱神。”

如果我们一边唱着承诺的歌，一边犯着无悔的罪，希望通过我们的灵性和才华来打动他人或“愚弄”神，我们就是假冒为善的人，和不信的人没有区别。我们需要走到十字架下，使我们可以体验悔改的果实。

有些人写了畅销书、拿了福音音乐奖、在世界各地布道，这些并不能保证他是真正的信徒。最近的这些例子并不是基督教历史上的第一起，也不会是最后一起。当我们看到那些背离信仰的人，我们必须明白他们和我们没有什么不同，我们都有“信仰出轨”的倾向。但神在祂的怜悯中不断吸引我们，更新我们对祂的爱。当我们看到那些已经离开信仰的人，我们不得不怀着敬畏和谦卑的心悔改。

事实上，最大的挑战并不是在教会围墙之外聚集的任何黑暗势力。相反，基督教最大的危险恰恰是基督徒。不是发生在外面的，而是我们自己。这是一种天然的倾向，就像以色列民一样容易偏离神，失去我们起初的爱。对以色列最大的威胁不是非利士人或巴比伦人，而是他们抛弃耶和华神的致命倾向。我们也一样，我们倾向传讲没有十字架的基督教，从而使福音失去了能力，不再吸引人来跟随神。

“现在回来还不晚，我的双臂依然张开”

基督徒的人生道路既然是信心之路，就必然会遇到各样的危险。这些危险有可能毁掉我们，使我们跌入不信、背教和死亡的深渊。但神已经将得救的保障赐给我们。神用来保护我们的方法就是信心，然而我们的信心都要经过试验。我们所面临的试炼、世上的艰难困苦、肉体的诱惑、魔鬼的诱惑，时时引诱我们放弃信仰。正如使徒彼得所说的，正是藉着信心被试验，我们才能得到比金子更显宝贵的真信心。

这个真理对彼得来说尤其宝贵。耶稣被卖之前，对彼得说：“西门！西门！撒但想要得着你们，好筛你们像筛麦子一样；但我已经为你祈求，叫你不至于失了信心。你回头以后，要坚固你的弟兄。” 耶稣的祷告是叫彼得的信心不要完全丧失。而活过那个可怕的夜晚，是谁把彼得从不信的悬崖上拉回来，使他流出悔恨的眼泪呢？是神的能力，祂保守且坚固了彼得的信心，正如祂今天仍然在不断坚固祂所爱的儿女一样。

罗伯特·皮特森（Robert Peterson）在《我们安全的救恩》一书中讲到了一个令人鼓舞的故事。一个叫保罗的弟兄读神学院的时候，他所在的教会发生了一件可怕的事。一位长老和另一位长老的妻子发生婚外情。他们精心预备了详细的私奔计划，包括向教会邮寄辞职信。

但他们却严重低估了两件事：教会弟兄姊妹对主的爱和对他们的爱。在这个不幸的消息被公布给会众的那个星期天，人们公开为这对夫妇的罪行和他们遭受重创的家庭哭泣祷告。教会的领袖和信徒们聚集在两个受伤的家庭周围，并公开承认他们自己心里也有奸淫的念头。人们对神的圣洁所产生的敬畏就像《使徒行传》中早期教会的信徒一样。

教会承诺不会放弃这对犯错的人。教会与他们取得联系，并向他们保证，会众会一直不停地为他们祷告。起初，这对私奔的男女希望这些话只是空洞的套话，但时间证明教会对他们的爱是真诚的。许多祷告会被安排在白天和晚上的不同时段举行。

在祷告了几个月，并与他们进行了多次温和的接触之后，神终于破门而入。当牧师宣布这对男女已经悔过并想要回来的时候，会众一片欢呼。牧师接着说，双方目前都羞于面对家人和会友。经过数周的辅导，两家人重新团聚，他俩也回到教会。弟兄姊妹张开双臂，喜极而泣，欢迎悔改的男女。

我们从中看到神对教会的爱，对每一个祂拣选之人不放弃的爱，正如一个牧羊人会想尽办法去救那只迷失的羊一样。好牧人的手臂不是越过悬崖，而是越过了粗糙而恐怖的十字架。就是在那里，好牧人发出祂最真诚的邀请，即使是对那些拒绝祂的人。祂似乎在说：“现在回来还不晚，我的双臂依然张开。”欢迎每个浪子回家，享受敬拜的喜乐和祂永远的爱。

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「我们知道一切受造之物一同叹息、劳苦，直到如今。」【罗8: 22】

如何脱离撒但败坏的辖制，进入荣耀的自由，便须经历属灵生产之努力，直等到基督成形在我们里面。今天所接触的一切周遭事物，都在向我们发出无声的叹息，但我们期望早日得以进入神儿女荣耀而自由。

当时犹大为了钱出卖他的主人，当迦勒底人和示巴人抢夺约伯时，他们并不是想讨魔鬼的喜悦，而是要 满足自己的贪心；但，的确是魔鬼激励他们行恶。只要万军之耶 和华反对你，并且一切受造之物都与你作战，直到人归正与神和好，神就为他与受造物立约。

我们得救之前的生活，外面是「随从今世的风俗」，里面确是「顺服」撒但的邪灵，所以从神看来，整个人生乃是『死在罪恶过犯之中』。

若一个未曾重生的人，他的行为无法不随世俗；如不随世俗，他就会觉得落伍，跟不上时代潮流。几乎人人都被卷进汪流中，虽所费不赀，亦心甘情愿，甚且还引以为荣，究其原因，乃是中了邪灵的诡计。

我们身在教会中若是仍旧嫉妒分争，放纵肉体，就是照着世人的样子行事，也就是随从今世的风俗了。

在属灵的争战中，信徒必要认清作战的对象；这对象不是人，乃是魔鬼，所以不要把弟兄姊妹当作仇敌。

我们与仇敌争战的立场必须是在诸天界里，我们的对手既是灵界的撒但，我们就得站在属灵的位置上，应用属灵的权柄去对付撒但。愿最高的荣耀与赞美全归于神。感谢神 ! 奉主蒙恩 ! 阿们! 

网络游戏中的网络赌…

网络游戏中的网络赌博可能会对玩家和社会产生各种不同的伤害。

网络赌博是指在网络游戏中进行的赌博活动，其中玩家使用虚拟货币或真实货币进行赌博。这种形式的赌博与传统赌博相似，但它发生在虚拟环境中，玩家通过网络进行交互。虽然网络赌博可以为一些人提供娱乐和社交的机会，但它也带来了一系列的伤害。

首先，网络赌博可能导致玩家面临财务风险。赌博是一种有风险的活动，参与者很容易陷入赌博成瘾。一些玩家可能会不断进行赌博，将大量的时间和金钱投入到网络赌博中，这可能导致他们经济上的困境。特别是当赌博活动涉及真实货币时，玩家可能会冒着巨大的财务风险，可能会面临债务累积、金融破产和其他严重后果。

其次，网络赌博可能导致玩家的心理健康问题。赌博成瘾是一种认知和行为障碍，会对个人的心理状态和情绪产生负面影响。赌博成瘾常常与焦虑、抑郁、自杀倾向和其他心理健康问题相关联。网络赌博的便利性和匿名性可能会加剧这些问题，因为玩家可以在任何时间、任何地点进行赌博，而无需承受面对面交流和社会压力的负担。

第三，网络赌博可能导致社会问题。赌博成瘾可能会对玩家的个人生活、家庭关系和社交关系产生负面影响。玩家可能因为沉迷于赌博而忽视学业、工作和家庭责任，导致人际关系破裂和家庭破碎。此外，网络赌博还可能导致犯罪行为，例如欺诈、网络诈骗和盗窃，以获取更多的资金进行赌博。

另外，网络赌博也可能对游戏本身产生不利影响。赌博活动可能破坏游戏的平衡性和公平性，使游戏环境充斥着赌博行为，导致玩家不再关注游戏本身的乐趣和挑战，而是追求赌博的经济回报。这可能会导致游戏的价值观和社区精神的破坏，影响到其他玩家的游戏体验和社交互动。

为了减少网络赌博的伤害，有必要采取一系列的措施。首先，游戏开发者应该加强对游戏平台的监管，确保禁止和打击网络赌博活动。他们可以采取技术手段来检测和阻止赌博行为，例如监控交易记录、限制虚拟货币的流通和交易，以及建立举报机制来报告赌博行为。

其次，教育和意识提高也是减少网络赌博伤害的关键。玩家应该被教育和警示赌博的风险和负面影响，包括财务风险、心理健康问题和社会问题。游戏开发者、家长和学校可以通过提供信息、资源和培训来加强对赌博问题的认知和理解，以及如何寻求帮助和支持。

此外，政府和相关机构也需要加强监管和立法措施，以遏制网络赌博的蔓延。它们可以通过制定法律和规章，对网络赌博进行明确的定义和禁止，并加强对违规行为的处罚和执法力度。同时，政府还应该提供咨询和治疗服务，以帮助那些受到网络赌博问题困扰的人们。

总而言之，网络赌博可能对玩家和社会产生多种伤害，包括财务风险、心理健康问题和社会问题。为了减少这些伤害，需要游戏开发者、教育机构、政府和社会各界共同努力，加强监管、教育和意识提高，以及提供支持和治疗服务，以遏制网络赌博的扩散并保护玩家的利益和福祉。

在讨论基督徒对网络游戏中的网络赌博的立场时，首先需要理解基督教对赌博的整体观点。基督教教义强调个人责任和道德原则，鼓励人们根据爱和公义的原则生活。在这个背景下，许多基督徒认为赌博是一种问题行为，因为它涉及到金钱、欲望和可能导致上瘾的行为。

对于网络游戏中的网络赌博，基督徒的观点可以大致分为以下几个方面：

1. 财务责任：基督徒强调财务责任和管理，认为金钱是神所赐予的资源，应该用于满足自己和他人的需要，并用于支持教会和慈善事业。网络赌博可能导致财务风险，许多基督徒认为赌博与财务责任和管理不相容。他们认为赌博是一种贪婪和不负责任的行为，可能导致金钱的浪费和其他不良后果。
2. 上瘾和控制：基督徒关注赌博活动可能导致上瘾和缺乏自控能力。赌博成瘾是一种行为障碍，可能导致个人沉迷于赌博并失去对自己行为的控制。基督徒强调对自己的节制和自律，并认为赌博可能违背这些原则。他们认为，赌博的上瘾性质可能导致玩家追求即时的快乐和物质回报，而忽视更重要的价值观和目标。
3. 诱惑和诱导：基督徒认为赌博活动可能对个人的品德和灵性产生不利影响。赌博可能成为人们贪婪、不公平和不道德行为的诱因。网络赌博可能通过奖励和激励机制来诱导玩家参与赌博活动，使他们追求快速的金钱回报，而不考虑其他人的利益和社会责任。基督徒强调遵循正直和道德的生活方式，并认为赌博可能与这些原则相悖。
4. 社会影响：基督徒关注网络赌博对社会的负面影响。赌博可能导致社会问题，包括家庭破裂、犯罪活动和心理健康问题。基督徒倡导保护社会的整体利益和福祉，认为网络赌博可能破坏个人和社会的和谐与稳定。他们强调社会责任和关怀他人，认为应该采取措施来减少赌博的负面影响。

在应对网络游戏中的网络赌博问题时，基督徒可以采取以下行动：

1. 避免参与：基督徒可以选择避免参与网络游戏中的赌博活动。这包括避免使用虚拟货币进行赌博，不参与赌博游戏或功能，并将注意力集中在游戏的其他方面，如探索、挑战和社交互动。
2. 教育和意识提高：基督徒可以通过教育和意识提高来帮助他人了解网络赌博的风险和负面影响。这可以通过分享经验、提供信息和参与社区讨论来实现。教会和宗教组织也可以发起活动和举办讲座，以帮助人们了解赌博问题的本质和解决方法。
3. 支持和援助：基督徒可以提供支持和援助给那些受网络赌博问题困扰的人们。这包括提供心理咨询、寻求专业治疗、建立支持网络和分享个人故事和经验。基督徒强调关怀他人和帮助需要的人，这也适用于网络赌博问题。
4. 法律和监管：基督徒可以支持加强法律和监管措施，以遏制网络赌博的蔓延。他们可以通过参与政策制定、呼吁合适的法律和监管机制，并与政府和相关机构合作，以确保社会的整体利益和福祉得到保护。

总结起来，基督徒对网络游戏中的网络赌博持有关注和谨慎的态度。他们关注赌博的财务风险、上瘾和控制问题、诱惑和诱导，以及赌博对社会的负面影响。基督徒可以通过避免参与、教育和意识提高、支持和援助以及法律和监管的方式来应对网络赌博问题。他们强调个人责任、道德原则和关怀他人，以追求公义、爱和社会的整体福祉。

见证篇160.领袖…

“上帝喜欢不情愿的领袖”, 没有哪个领袖是自告奋勇站到上帝面前的，因为不情愿的领袖不容易受到权力、骄傲和野心的诱惑。他们清楚领导的真相，必须舍己，必须被破碎，因此如果为了自己舒服，他们坚决推辞。

有朋友参加过一个成功学的培训，其中一节课是让一个人坐在中间，其他学员围成一圈，用各种贬低、责骂、嘲笑的负面语言批评中间人的某个观点或做法。据说，这可以锻炼人的“心理承受力”。还有的让学员上街乞讨，然后把乞讨来的钱物送到养老院。

坊间最流行的书籍，不少都是关于如何成功、如何管理的。翻开看，拨去表面一层时髦的新名词，一些隐含的价值观腐朽得象秦始皇的施政纲领。那些信奉“男人就要对自己狠一点”，为了成功能忍人所不能忍的人，不过是韩非、李斯、秦始皇之流相信人性本恶、狂热追求成功的先秦法家信徒的现代翻版。最露骨的表达就是马云那句话：当你成功时，你说的所有话都是真理。

一位心理学家从心理分析的角度，认为法家如此强烈的成功动机背后，往往隐藏着一种“自卑感”。他们表面上非常自信，其实这种自信只是由于他们不相信别人而产生的补偿心理。这些人在能力上不乏过人之处，但从心理健康的角度看，他们常常是最不健康的人。他们管理团队的手段，不外乎“法、术、势”老三样——奖惩之法、欺诈之术以及地位权势。

这就是中国式管理和领导的真相吗？

近年一些高端的培训，常会讲到犹太人的智慧。历史上，曾经出现过一位伟大的犹太领袖——摩西，他作为领袖的一生，和中国文化中的许多现象恰成对照。

做领袖如“养育之父”

《圣经·旧约》记载了东方另一个古老民族——以色列人中的杰出领袖，摩西是最被推崇的其中一位。他从上帝那里领受带领整个犹太民族的男女老幼逃离埃及，进行战略转移，进入迦南美地的使命。

《圣经》并未美化他所领导的同胞的种种不堪行为，每每遇到一点困难，他们就想要跑回埃及继续做奴隶，吃埃及的肉锅、黄瓜、韭菜，口味倒是和中国人差不多。而他竟然能够领导这样一大群很“不上道”的下属，忍受他们的抱怨，原谅他们的冒犯，还为他们向上帝祈求恩典和怜悯，不是一天两天，而是四十年！

最后，还因为被他们的不争气所激怒，被上帝禁止进入近在咫尺的迦南。

根据旧约的记载，摩西的一生分三个阶段：前四十年因为被埃及法老的公主收养，而成为埃及的王子；然后因为路见不平杀了人，不得不亡命天涯，做了四十年的牧羊人；最后四十年作为领袖带领以色列人出埃及。

然而在摩西的光环后面，我们却听到他这样对上帝抱怨自己做领袖的苦：“你为何苦待仆人，我为何不在你眼前蒙恩，竟把这管理百姓的重任加在我身上呢？这百姓岂是我怀的胎，岂是我生下来的呢？你竟对我说：‘把他们抱在怀里，如养育之父抱着吃奶的孩子，直抱到你起誓应许给他们祖宗的地去’……管理这百姓的责任太重了，我独自担当不起。你这样待我，我若在你眼前蒙恩，求你立时将我杀了，不叫我见自己的苦情。”

这段摩西在极重的压力下向上帝倾吐心意的祷告，透露了一个细节，就是上帝对摩西作为领袖的要求，是像父亲一样对被领导者的生命负责，“如养育之父”。从中可见，领导者的一个重要特质是象一个人格成熟的父亲一样。

我常想，如果各大单位的领导都是真正带过孩子的人，看过生命成长是如何不易、而只要付出又真的会见到成果，是不是许多急功近利、苛责压制的错误就能避免了呢？

但摩西的父亲是谁？以色列人的文献中只记载了他是一个名叫“暗兰”的利未人而已。因为被遗弃的经历，他的家庭生活是不完整的、畸形的，尽管他的生母被收养他的公主带到王宫做了他的乳母，但他的父亲形象无疑是缺失的。这个负面影响对他未来成为领袖是很大的挑战。

在四十年的王子生涯中，摩西“学了埃及人一切的学问，说话行事都有才能”。他也自信满满，觉得凡事“我能”，有时明明是自己的满腔血气，还以为在替天行道，对抗法老的逼迫。

摩西原以为凭他的身份与才能，登高一呼，必定应者云集。但他的假定完全错了，当他前去调解自己同胞的纷争时，他们却质疑他的资格，“谁立你做我们的首领和审判官呢”，还曝光他路见不平时曾经杀死一个埃及人的“前科案底”。

父亲的缺席，使他没有意识到领袖的权威就像父亲在家中的权威一样，需要靠长期付出的爱来建立，靠喊话、搞企业文化、颁布法规起不了什么本质作用。摩西在尚未树立领导的威信时就想当然地以为可以凭恩赐、凭血缘做领导、行使领导权，自然引起反弹，失败是必然的。

做领袖要体会到自己的无能

新华网上有一则微博段子：最近，各地一些领导的能力有了很大的提高：有的会亲自打伞，有的会亲自开车门，有的会亲自拎包，有的会亲自拿水杯，有的居然会亲自写讲话稿了……其实，人民群众对领导的期望也不是很高，只要生活能基本自理就可以了！

对比上述情形中的所谓领导，就不难理解为什么上帝会看重摩西。虽然摩西路见不平的手法欠妥，但动机却是上帝所看重的：他在别人的需要和错误里看到自己所能尽的责任。这是一个领导者最重要的素质——愿意担当，愿意摆上。他一直没有失去这份责任感和担当的勇气，即使当他逃跑到米甸，看到当地祭司的七个女儿受到欺负时依然挺身相助。

摩西亡命米甸，以放羊谋生。在他人生的第二个四十年，上帝在旷野漫长的时空里，磨练这位自以为是的王子，直到他体会到自己的无能——“我是什么人，竟能去见法老，将以色列从埃及领出来呢？”

摩西要领导他人，就必须忍痛经历自己缺少领导才能的事实。他首先必须面对自己的无力感和不被需要的感觉，他怀疑以色列人会愿意听他的话，而且为自己口舌笨拙而痛苦。

但摩西的自我怀疑并不妨碍上帝把领导的任务交给他。我们在犹太人的历史中发现一个非常值得深思的现象，就是上帝只拣选那些不情愿做领袖的人出来做领袖。

美国学者艾伦德在《蹒跚的领袖》一书中得出了一个睿智的结论，“上帝喜欢不情愿的领袖”，没有哪个领袖是自告奋勇站到上帝面前的，因为不情愿的领袖不容易受到权力、骄傲和野心的诱惑。他们清楚领导的真相，必须舍己，必被破碎。因此如果为了自己舒服，他们坚决推辞。他们不会热切地想要更大、更好和更多，不会认为“一将功成万骨枯”、要别人为了自己的理想流血是应该的。

针对摩西年青时暴露出的过于冲动和血气的弱点，上帝让他每天与羊为伍，一点一点磨他。而家庭生活的操练，我想也对他帮助很多，或许他发现，最先挑战他的领袖权威、考验他的隐忍的人，不是别人，正是自己的老婆和孩子，如果不能领导好他们，他怎么可能带领百万以色列民众？

这对摩西很重要。表面上他因为救了米甸祭司的女儿而为自己赢得了一个婚姻，其实是这个家庭救了他，尤其是岳父作为父辈给他提供了一个男性成长所必不可少的同性的肯定和接纳。摩西在此期间学习做丈夫、父亲和一个牧者。岳父后来还成为他作领袖时的管理顾问，给他提出了通过授权建立团队、避免专权的建议。有一个成熟的父亲形象从旁协助，帮助摩西少走了许多弯路。

有趣的是，影响中国文化最大的儒家开山宗师孔孟二人，孔子三岁丧父，孟子两岁丧父，成长经历中同样缺乏父亲的榜样。

学者朱建军在《中国的人心与文化》中写道，父亲早丧，使孔子没有机会了解一个现实中的父亲总是既有优点也有缺点的。幻想中的父亲可以很完美，孔子还经常梦到周公。在儿子心目中，这个父亲几乎可以是神。孔子继而对君王也产生了这样的幻想，一厢情愿地希望而且相信君王会像一个慈祥的父亲爱孩子一样爱自己的臣民。

但最好的父亲也不是神，最好的领导者也是会犯错误的人，这似乎是常识，却不容易被一个在父亲形象缺失的家庭中长大的人所体会到。结果带来的弊端就是使儒家文化对君王可能出现的问题缺乏有效的制约机制。对“君父”过于理想化，期待过多而防范太少，使国人屡屡被伤。

领袖的心理垃圾倒给谁？

在人生的第三个四十年里，摩西体会到无论他觉得自己是荆棘还是渣滓，或被世人藐视被乡亲厌弃，但只要他肯，上帝就把自己的能力添加在软弱的他身上。他清楚他依靠的是上帝，上帝使他成为领袖。

前美国通用电气公司首席执行官司杰克•韦尔奇，对什么是领袖有过一个经典的概括。在他看来，领袖应当有远见卓识并使团队共享其见、充满活力并能感染整个团队的激情，还应当敢于尝试具挑战性的任务，作出艰难却有意义的决定。这个定义就象是为摩西订做的，区别只是摩西的远见卓识来自上帝。

因此当以色列人与敌人交战时，摩西并没有选择身先士卒，而是登上山为百姓求告上帝。他正确持守与上帝的关系，他知道惟有从上帝而来的力量能帮助人民得胜，而不是逞匹夫之勇、自己冲进作战的队伍里赢得群众一时的欢呼。

有经济学学者认为，领袖和群众之间存在一种交易关系。人们给领袖让渡了控制权，同时希望从领袖那里获得回报：当危险和逼迫来临，期待领袖成为最能替众人承担风险的那一位，一旦他们怀疑自己的回报，领袖就得不到拥戴。

因此一有不舒服的地方，民众就会怨怼、悖逆。摩西甚至还遭遇亲戚兼助手亚伦、米利暗的嫉妒和毁谤，以及可拉一党的叛乱。他的处理方式“极其谦和，胜过世上的众人”。

摩西通过不断转向上帝，将自己内心的负面感受真实地向上帝倾吐，不被其感染，甚至在上帝面前真实的崩溃，然后回到百姓面前。不是摩西心理抗压能力强，而是他与上帝的关系使他可以随时到上帝面前卸下自己的重担，重新得力。想想乔布斯吧，他把苹果帝国的员工当作自己的“臣民”，任意发泄不满，言语苛刻，很难期待这样的男人能够胜任父亲的角色，所以看到媒体报道他临终前都不能接纳自己的亲身女儿，也不意外。

此外，摩西能够妥善处理自己的攻击性性格。其实每个人内心都或多或少具有攻击性的性格。一个男人是否能成为一个成熟的男人或变成一个只会说是的应声虫，往往取决于能不能妥善处理好攻击的个性。这种攻击性表现在他年轻时杀过人，之后虽然温柔谦和，但也有时仍然脾气暴烈。

他曾摔碎法版，也曾在与上帝说话时与上帝摔跤、控诉，绝不轻易放弃。攻击性也帮助他不屈不挠达成目标，不至于灰心自弃。摩西经常一个人爬上山，在山上退省，这些操练帮助他处理并适当运用自己的攻击性格，成为为上帝进取的力量来源。如果摩西靠不断为他所领导的团体寻找新的敌人或发起新的运动来排解自己的攻击性，无疑将酿成犹太民族的灾难。

尽管摩西被重用，但也难免犯错。他在加低斯被要水喝的百姓激动，没有尊上帝为圣，自己也受了亏损。他接纳自己的阴暗面发作。允许自己犯错的人，才会允许别人犯错，才能真正接纳别人，领导好团队。摩西为此承担不能进入应许之地的代价，但他丝毫没有埋怨为什么上帝对他这么严格。外有强敌或逼迫，永远不成为属神的领袖放过自身之罪的借口。因为他是领袖，领袖的一丝骄傲，就会鼓励举国的人争相谄媚。

摩西并非天生就是领袖，他人生第一次想要发挥领导作用的尝试就惨遭失败被迫流亡四十年，成为他领导生涯中噩梦般的阴影。好在上帝从不使用伟大的人，而是使用传讲伟大上帝的人。与上帝同工的过程中，他的性格被重新建立，展现出卓越的领袖品格和领导技巧。

《圣经》真实记载了以色列历史上每个伟大人物的优点、缺点与错误，可以说，是一部记录领袖真相的书。在一些惯于粉饰的文化里，领袖的真相是最被隐蔽的部分，人们被骗也骗人。或许人们内心并不甘愿如此，因此当两千多位不同公司的员工被要求列出自己最看重的领导品质时，排在第一名的是正直和诚实，其次才是能力。世界上的公司尚且如此，信仰群体更应自省。
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