男人的天空(二)

Session 2 · The Four Faces of Manhood
第 2 讲 · 英⽂为录像转写，中⽂为对照翻译，时间为录像中的位置

0:00 The King, the Warrior, the Lover, the Friend. Well, good morning, gentlemen. You know, fall is in the air. And when fall is in the air, football is at full force, right? The other night I was watching Auburn put it on Mississippi State, and as I was watching, the camera panned down by the sidelines, and I saw Jackie Sherrill and I kind of had a flashback to my college playing days because I was one of the very first players that Jackie Sherrill ever coached.
君王、战士、爱人、朋友。各位先生，早上好。你们知道，秋天到了。秋天一到，橄榄球赛季就全面开打了，对吧？前几天晚上我在看奥本大学痛宰密西西比州立，看着看着，镜头扫到了场边，我看到了杰基·谢里尔，一下子就回想起我大学打球的日子，因为我是杰基·谢里尔执教过的最早一批球员之一。

0:37 He was a graduate assistant from the Universityof Alabama and he had just come to the University of Arkansas and he coached linebackers and so there we were, we met the very first day I was up at the university to play there.
他当时是阿拉巴马大学出来的研究生助理教练，刚刚来到阿肯色大学，负责带线卫，于是我们就碰上了，我去那所大学打球的第一天就认识了他。

0:51 And when I was sitting there on the sideline, it reminded me of a story I heard about Jackie Sherrill once. Jackie had just had his team be soundly beaten by of all teams Louisiana Tech and he was mad and he could get real mad he was also known as the kind of guy who tried to do things in kind of strange ways to motivate his team so he called all his players into the locker room had them all there and he said guys we’re not going to make it this season unless you look down within yourself and get tougher.
我坐在那儿看着场边，想起了以前听过的一个关于杰基·谢里尔的故事。有一次杰基的球队被路易斯安那理工大学打得惨败，偏偏是他们，他气坏了，他发起火来可是很凶的，他还出了名是那种喜欢用各种怪招来激励球队的人。于是他把所有球员叫进更衣室，对他们说：“伙计们，这个赛季我们是没戏了，除非你们从心底里变得更硬朗。

1:28 I mean, a lot tougher. You know how tough you need to get? And he went over and he pulled out this little pail, brought it into the middle of the room, reached down and pulled up a baby alligator. He said, let me show you how tough you’re going to have to get. He unzipped his pants and dropped his drawers, turned around and let that alligator just take a big chunk into his rear end.
我是说，硬朗得多。你们知道要硬朗到什么程度吗？”他走过去拿出一个小桶，拎到房间中央，伸手抓出一条小鳄鱼。他说：“让你们看看你们得硬朗到什么程度。”他拉开拉链，把裤子褪下来，转过身，让那条鳄鱼在他屁股上狠狠咬了一大口。
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1:51 And the alligator’s hanging off his rear end like
this. And he’s walking around looking at his
players and he was going, this is how tough
you’ve got to get. This tough. You think you can
be this tough? And then he poked the alligator
in the eyes and the alligator let go and he picked
the alligator up and he said, okay, who wants to
be next?
那鳄鱼就这样挂在他屁股上。他还走来走去，盯
着球员们说：“你们就得硬朗到这个程度。就这么
硬。你们觉得自己做得到吗？”然后他戳了一下鳄
鱼的眼睛，鳄鱼松了口，他把鳄鱼拎起来说：
“好，下一个谁来？”
2:12 Some big old dumb lineman in the back raised
his hand and said, well, I will coach if you don’t
poke me in the eyes to make me let go. Well, last
week we started men’s fraternity. Got into the
starting blocks on the starting line. And when
we did so, I overviewed the year that we were
going to have together. And I gave you some
presuppositions that would strongly influence
the messages that I’m going to be presenting to
you. I want to give two of the most important
ones just as a reminder.
后排一个傻大个的锋线球员举手说：“教练，我
来，只要你别戳我眼睛逼我松口就行。”好，上周
我们开始了Men’s Fraternity。站上了起跑线，进
入了起跑器。那时我概述了我们这一年要一起走
的内容。我也给了你们几个前提，这些前提会深
深影响我接下来要讲给你们的信息。我想提醒一
下其中最重要的两个。
3:00 First of all, I said last week, manhood is in a
state of confusion today. What I want you guys
to recognize is right below the surface of
American life is kind of a cauldron of confusion.
of men who don’t really know what it means to
be a man.
首先，我上周说过，今天的男子汉气概处在一片
混乱中。我希望你们认识到，在美国生活的表面
之下，有一口沸腾的混乱大锅，里面是一群不真
正知道做男人意味着什么的男人。
3:21 Well, they know generally kind of how a man
acts in certain ways, knows how to make a liv‐
ing, knows he needs to get married, but as far as
what it is that’s noble and right about a man,
substantive in a man’s soul, he’s lost.
当然，他们大致知道男人在某些方面该怎么做，
知道要谋生，知道要结婚，可是说到男人身上什
么是高贵、正直的，男人灵魂里什么是有分量
的，他就迷失了。
3:40 And so he kind of catches every little wind that
comes through the culture thinking maybe that’s
what it means to be a man. But there’s not any‐
thing permanent that can last for a lifetime. I
also told you last week that along with that con‐
fusion, there is no compelling vision that calls a
man up.
所以他就随着文化里吹来的每一阵小风摇摆，以
为那也许就是做男人的意义。但没有一样是恒
久、能持续一生的。我上周还告诉你们，伴随这
种混乱的，是没有一个令人信服的异象来提升男
人。
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4:02 There are a lot of things, as you guys know, that
call a man down. But very few things, especially
very few visions that really call a man up to be
the kind of man he really needs to be. I also
made, as Tim said, a few promises to you last
week. I just want to remind you of the five
promises that I gave to you. First of all, I said
that if you could stick with me the whole year,
by the time you leave at the end of the year, you
would have a clear, compelling definition of
what it meant to be a man.
你们都知道，拉男人往下坠的东西太多了。但很
少有东西，尤其是很少有异象，能真正提升男
人，让他成为他真正该成为的那种男人。就像蒂
姆说的，我上周也向你们作了几个承诺。我想提
醒你们我给的这五个承诺。第一，我说如果你们
能跟我走完这一整年，到年底离开的时候，你们
会对做男人的意义有一个清晰而有说服力的定
义。
4:33 I also said that you would have a manhood lan‐
guage that would allow you to converse with
other men in this room in a substantive way for
your life that would call you up. I told you that if
you stuck with me the whole year, you would
make some significant discoveries about your‐
self. And I want you to know the reason I can
make that promise is because men who’ve been
with us in men’s fraternity in the past, Some of
those men have not only made significant dis‐
coveries, but some of the most life-changing dis‐
coveries of their whole life.
我还说，你们会拥有一套男子汉的语言，让你们
能和这屋子里的其他男人就你们的人生进行有深
度的交流，这会提升你们。我告诉你们，如果你
们跟我走完这一整年，你们会对自己有一些重大
的发现。我想让你们知道，我之所以敢作这个承
诺，是因为过去参加过Men’s Fraternity的男人
中，有些人不只是有了重大发现，而且是他们一
生中最能改变生命的一些发现。
5:04 According to their wives and friends and family,
by the end of the year, they walked out different
men and have remained different men. And a
much better man at that. And I told you you
would make some new friends because we’re all
pursuing the same goal, and that is we do want
to be a better man, and that’s why we’re here.
And then lastly, I said that if you finish the year,
you would leave with your own personal man‐
hood plan for you. That would be your vision for
your life.
据他们的妻子、朋友和家人说，到了年底，他们
走出去时已经是不一样的人，而且一直都不一样
了。而且是好得多的男人。我还告诉你们，你们
会结交一些新朋友因为我们都在追求同一个目
标，那就是我们真心想成为更好的男人，这也是
我们来这里的原因。最后，我说过，如果你们坚
持完这一年，你们离开时会带走一份属于自己的
男子汉计划。那会是你人生的异象。
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5:37 Now, next week, I’m going to hand you out a
draft of that plan. We’re going to walk through it
so you can get underway. But just to let you
know, I think that’s the most important thing
that you will do here in Men’s Fraternity for you,
is that you will script for yourself a plan, a noble
plan, that will call you for your own personal life
and your own personal situation up.
下周，我会发给你们这份计划的草稿。我们会一
起过一遍，好让你们开始着手。不过我要先告诉
你们，我认为你们在Men’s Fraternity为自己做的
最重要的一件事，就是为自己写下一份计划，一
份高尚的计划，它会呼召你在个人生命和个人处
境中向上提升。
6:03 And in the soul of every man, he wants to go up.
And that’s what we’re going to be talking about
this year. Now this morning as we embark on
our journey into authentic manhood, I thought
it would be good to start today by just giving an
initial vision of what a real man looks like. To
start, I want you to listen to the words of
Garrison Keillor, the humorist. He writes this.
每个男人的灵魂深处，都渴望向上。这就是我们
今年要谈的内容。今天早上，在我们踏上真正男
子汉气概的旅程之际，我想最好一开始先给大家
一个初步的异象，看看真男人是什么样子。首
先，我想请你们听听幽默作家加里森·凯勒的一
段话。他这样写道：
6:27 Plato, St. Francis, Leonardo da Vinci, Vince
Lombardi, Yogi Berra. You don’t find guys of
that caliber today. What you find is terrible gen‐
der anxiety. Guys desperately trying to be Mr.
Right. The man who can bake a cherry pie, go
shoot skeet, come back, toss a salad, converse
intimately about intimate matters, cry if need
be, laugh, hug, be vulnerable, perform passion‐
ately that night, and then the next day go off and
lift them bales and tote that barge.
柏拉图、圣方济各、达·芬奇、文斯·隆巴迪、
尤吉·贝拉。如今你再也找不到那种级别的人
了。你看到的是可怕的性别焦虑。男人们拼命想
成为理想先生。那种能烤樱桃派、去打飞碟、回
来后拌个沙拉、亲密地谈论私密话题、必要时还
能哭，会笑、会拥抱、敢于示弱、晚上激情表
现，第二天又能出门扛草包、拖驳船的男人。
7:02 You know, trying to be Mr. Perfect, Keeler says,
is a terrible way to spend your life. And I say
that because today, Today, perfect is the image
that I think men get from the world around
them. They think they need to be everything to
everybody.
凯勒说，你知道，拼命想做个完美先生，是一种
糟糕透顶的活法。我之所以提这个，是因为今
天，我认为男人从周围世界得到的形象就是“完
美”。他们以为自己必须对每个人都面面俱到。
7:24 They need to be everything at once. The man
who can do it all. And I think that’s a terrible
way to live. In fact, I think a much better way to
live or a much better term than perfect is just
simply the word balanced.
必须同时什么都是。做个无所不能的男人。我认
为那是一种糟糕的活法。其实，我认为更好的活
法，或者说比“完美”好得多的词，就是“平衡”。
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7:38 I think what the world is needing from men to‐
day is a life of balance. A real man is a balance of
four expressions. And today I’m going to give
you four faces of manhood. Each complement‐
ing the other. Each synchronizing with the oth‐
er. Each balancing the other. And I think this is
what the world is looking for. And I think in
some ways this is what we’re looking for. So let
me give you the four faces of manhood. Here’s
the first face. It’s called the king face.
我认为今天世界需要男人活出的，是平衡的生
命。真男人是四种表现的平衡。今天我要给你们
讲男子汉的四张面孔。彼此互补，彼此协调，彼
此平衡。我认为这正是世界在寻找的。我想在某
种程度上，这也是我们在寻找的。那么，我来讲
讲男子汉的四张面孔。第一张面孔，叫做君王的
面孔。
8:07 The face of the king. Now this face doesn’t come
easily in a man’s life. The fact is this face has to
be cultivated over time. There has to be a num‐
ber of ingredients that go into helping a man put
this face on. It’s through his parents. It’s
through mentors. It’s through heroes, stories,
faith, persevering through special problems. It
comes about through integrating his religion
into his life.
君王之面。这张面孔在男人生命中不是轻易得来
的。事实上，这张面孔需要长时间培养。需要许
多要素来帮助一个男人戴上这张面孔。它来自他
的父母，来自导师，来自英雄、故事、信仰，来
自在特殊难题中坚持到底。它来自把信仰融入生
活。
8:38 all of which creates in the soul of a man over
time as principle is forged in the crucible of this
man’s life a love of the right. That’s the king
face. It’s the love of the right. And a love of right
over comfort and circumstances.
这一切随着时间，在男人的灵魂里，当原则在他
生命的熔炉中被锻造时，造就出对正确之事的热
爱。这就是君王的面孔。就是热爱正确之事。爱
正确之事胜过爱安逸和环境。
9:01 It’s the face a man shows when he’s asked to
cheat on a business deal. it’s the face a man
shows when it comes time to keep his promise
although now keeping his promise is going to be
extremely difficult it’s the face a man show when
he makes good on his debt the face he shows
when he risk his own life to save another person
or when he’s on a business trip and he’s proposi‐
tioned by a female male companion.
当有人要他在生意上作弊时，他展现的就是这张
面孔。当到了要信守承诺的时候，尽管此刻守信
会极其艰难，他展现的就是这张面孔。当他如数
偿还债务时，展现的就是这张面孔；当他冒着生
命危险去救别人，或者出差时有女同伴向他示
好、提出越轨要求时，展现的也是这张面孔。
9:33 It’s the face he shows when he could take advan‐
tage of someone else, but he chooses not to. Or
he stands up to a good friend whose life is out of
control and risks the friendship in order to call
the friend back to what is noble and what is just.
当他本可以占别人便宜，却选择不这么做时，展
现的就是这张面孔。或者他挺身面对一个生活失
控的好朋友，冒着失去友谊的风险，呼唤朋友回
到高尚和公义的道路上。
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9:51 It’s that face he shows without blinking in the
face of danger. It’s the face that doesn’t waver
even though he knows there are risks and conse‐
quences by standing up to that which is ignoble
and wrong. I call it the king face.
这是他在危险面前毫不眨眼所展现的面孔。这是
一张毫不动摇的面孔，尽管他知道挺身对抗卑劣
和错误之事会有风险和后果。我称之为君王的面
孔。
10:12 This is the face that reflects righteous energy.
It’s the face reflecting righteous energy. In the
Bible, you see that face reflected in the prophet
Nathan, who comes to King King David to con‐
front him about his secret adultery. Knowing
that when he confronts the king, he’s laying it all
on the line. And the king with just a word could
either banish him from the kingdom forever or
have him put to death. And yet, he looks into the
face of a king and says, you are the man and
you’re wrong.
这张面孔反映出公义的能量。它是反映公义能量
的面孔。在圣经里，你在先知拿单身上看到这张
面孔，他去见大卫王，当面指出他暗中犯的奸
淫。他知道一旦当面指责王，就是把一切都押上
了。王只要一句话，就能把他永远逐出国境，或
者把他处死。然而，他直视着王的脸说：你就是
那人，你错了。
10:47 It’s also the face of King David who in hearing
the words of a righteous man, instead of saying,
I did not have sexual relations with that woman,
Miss Bathsheba. In the midst of being confront‐
ed with the wrong, he puts on the king face.
这也是大卫王的面孔，他听到一个义人的话，没
有说：“我和那个女人，拔示巴小姐，没有发生性
关系。”在被指出过错的时候，他戴上了君王的面
孔。
11:09 And he says, I’ve sinned. You’re right. I’ve done
wrong. This face is characterized by a number of
things. It’s characterized by strong convictions,
courageous moral choices, a servant spirit,
righteous leadership.
他说：我犯了罪。你说得对。我做错了。这张面
孔有几个特征。它的特征是坚定的信念、勇敢的
道德抉择、仆人的心志、公义的领导。
11:32 And as I said, it doesn’t come easily. It is forged
in the crucible of life. Every guy here is in the
process of developing or snuffing out the king
face in your life. Because it comes with those de‐
cisions. Sometimes, like climbing a mountain,
there are small hills in the beginning of your life,
and sometimes the issues get much greater and
grander. But each time you scale the summit,
the king face grows stronger and brighter.
我说过，这得来不易。它是在人生的熔炉中锻造
出来的。在座每个人都正在你的生命中培养或扼
杀君王的面孔。因为它来自那些抉择。有时就像
爬山一样，人生起初只是一些小山丘，有时问题
会变得更大、更艰巨。但每当你登上山顶，君王
的面孔就变得更坚强、更明亮。
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12:03 I remember years ago, I was off to graduate
school, seminary. And as I got there, it became
real apparent after the first couple of months in
Oregon that we had difficulty getting jobs and
school was starting. and our finances ran real
low. And one of my friends who had just taken a
really good job with an oil company and they’d
moved him to Lima, Peru, he called me and we
were talking. I was telling him about my finan‐
cial circumstances. And graciously, he said to
me these words.
我记得多年前，我去读研究生，上神学院。到了
那里以后，在俄勒冈过了头几个月，情况就很明
显了，我们找工作很困难，学校又要开学了，我
们的钱也快用光了。我有个朋友，刚在一家石油
公司找到一份很好的工作，公司把他派到秘鲁的
利马，他打电话给我，我们聊了起来。我跟他说
了我的经济状况。他很慷慨地对我说了这些话。
12:33 He said, listen, I’ve got this wonderful job. Let
me cover your first semester. And man, I was so
impressed. I said, dope, that’s $2,000. He said,
let me cover it. Well, about three days after that,
down in Lima, Peru, Doak was called into the of‐
fice of the boss down in Lima, Peru.
他说：听着，我有份很棒的工作。你第一学期的
费用我来出吧。哎呀，我真是太感动了。我说：
多克，那可是两千美元。他说：我来出。结果大
约三天后，在秘鲁利马，多克被叫进了利马那边
老板的办公室。
12:54 And because of the oil negotiations and the mili‐
tary that was in control of the government at the
time and all that, Doak was asked to sign papers
that would bribe the government in order for
them to do certain oil exploits in Peru.
因为石油谈判，还有当时军方控制着政府等等原
因，老板要多克签署文件，贿赂政府，好让他们
在秘鲁进行某些石油开采。
13:11 The boss asked him to sign these papers, and he
said, well, can I think about it just for a mo‐
ment? He said, what’s there to think about? This
is the way you do business in South America. He
said, I know, but that’s not the way I thought I
was going to do business.
老板要他签这些文件，他说：我能稍微考虑一下
吗？老板说：这有什么好考虑的？在南美就是这
样做生意的。他说：我知道，但这不是我想要的
做生意方式。
13:24 So he walked around the block and he came
back and he said, you know, I really don’t feel
comfortable signing those papers. And the boss
said, listen, if you don’t sign the papers, you
don’t work here. So he lost his job that day.
于是他绕着街区走了一圈，回来说：我真的不愿
意签这些文件。老板说：听着，你不签，就别在
这儿干了。于是他当天就丢了工作，
13:40 and all his benefits and struggled to get back to
the States. And I remember when he got back to
the States, he called me and he told me on the
phone that all this had happened to him. And of
course, I was sympathizing with him. And of
course, the first thing I thought was, well, don’t
worry about what you promised me.
所有福利都没了，好不容易才回到美国。我记得
他回到美国后，打电话告诉我发生的这一切。我
当然很同情他。当然，我第一个念头就是：答应
我的事就别放在心上了。
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13:57 And he said, you know, I got back to the States.
And he said, I looked in my account and I had
$2,000 left and I’m going to send it to you.
that’s the king face I never forgot that of a man
who stepped up with righteous energy to fulfill a
promise that he made even when I thought it
wasn’t necessary you see that king face in scrip‐
ture in verses like this Proverbs 4.18 it says this
but the path of the righteous is like the light of
the dawn that shines brighter and brighter until
the full day.
他说：你知道，我回到美国后，他说，我查了账
户，还剩两千美元，我要寄给你。这就是君王的
面孔，我永远忘不了一个男人以公义的能量挺身
而出，履行他许下的承诺，即使我都认为没必要
了。你在圣经中也看到君王的面孔，比如箴言4
章18节说：但义人的路好像黎明的光，越照越
明，直到日午。
14:36 Now I know when you read that verse, it’s a little
bit poetic, but look at it for a moment. You
know, when you walk out of here, the day is go‐
ing to be dawning. We’ll have a beautiful day to‐
day. The sun will come up and it’ll grow stronger
and stronger and brighter and brighter in its in‐
tensity through the day.
我知道你读这节经文时，觉得有点诗意，但仔细
看一看。你走出这里的时候，天就要破晓了。今
天会是美好的一天。太阳会升起，越来越强、越
来越亮，整天越照越强烈。
14:52 The writer of Proverbs tells us that’s what right‐
eousness is like in life. It grows stronger through
life. A man who puts on the king face grows
stronger through his life. His life doesn’t fade.
Now, a lot of us who have a little bit of age to us
know that, you know, there are a lot of exploits
of guys in the early days who did a lot of things
that were wrong. They thought it was cool to
sleep around on their wife or to party all night,
whatever. But, you know, that kind of lifestyle
over a period of time grows weaker through the
years, doesn’t it?
箴言的作者告诉我们，人生中的公义就是这样。
它在一生中越来越强。一个戴上君王面孔的男
人，一生会越来越刚强。他的生命不会褪色。我
们当中有点年纪的人都知道，年轻时有很多家伙
干过不少“壮举”，做了很多错事。他们觉得背着
老婆到处乱搞很酷，或者通宵狂欢，诸如此类。
但是你知道，那种生活方式过些年就会越来越衰
弱，不是吗？
15:33 but not the righteous. They start with small
light, and as life goes on, their manhood gets
brighter and brighter until the full day. That’s
what the writer is saying here. The king face is
part of manhood.
但义人不是这样。他们起初只有微光，随着人生
前行，他们的男子汉气概越照越明，直到日午。
这就是作者在这里要说的。君王的面孔是男子汉
气概的一部分。
15:51 He also says in Proverbs 20, verse 7, these
words, A righteous man who walks in his in‐
tegrity, how blessed are his sons after him. Now,
for those of us who have sons, that should mean
a lot. Because there are a lot of things you can
give your sons.
他在箴言20章7节也说：行为纯正的义人，他的子
孙是有福的。对我们这些有儿子的人来说，这话
意义重大。因为你能给儿子的东西有很多。
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16:07 Trips, gear, time with dad, showing up at his
ball game, big hugs. But what the writer of
Proverbs is saying is the thing that you can give
your son the most is your integrity. How blessed
are sons after him. because you fill into their
soul a substance that they can’t get anywhere
else. And it builds a solid core out of which they
can live their own life. But if that core isn’t built,
then they’re like a paper house.
旅行、装备、陪伴他、去看他的球赛、大大的拥
抱。但箴言作者说的是，你能给儿子最好的东
西，是你的正直。他的子孙是有福的，因为你把
一种别处得不到的实质注入他们的灵魂。它建立
起坚实的核心，让他们能活出自己的人生。但如
果这个核心没有建立，他们就像纸糊的房子。
16:41 How blessed are the sons after him. This is what
the king face is all about. It’s a man who reflects
righteous energy all through his life and he
grows brighter through the years. You know
what? But by the time you get to be 50 and 60
and you look around, you don’t compare wealth
and houses and cars so much anymore.
他的子孙是有福的。这就是君王面孔的全部意
义。这样的男人一生都散发着公义的能量，年岁
越长，越发光明。你知道吗？等你到了五六十
岁，环顾四周，你就不太再去比财富、房子和车
子了。
17:01 You compare character and your good name if
you still have one. That’s what the king face is all
about. Then there’s a second face that a man
wears. It’s called the warrior face. It’s the war‐
rior face that says, we can take the company
national.
你比的是品格和好名声，如果你还有的话。这就
是君王面孔的意义。男人还戴着第二张面孔，叫
做战士的面孔。是战士的面孔在说：我们能把公
司做到全国。
17:23 Let’s do it. it’s the warrior face that says you
know I’m going to lose weight and did so it’s the
warrior face that says I’m going to repay that
debt even though I don’t know how I’m going to
get out of debt I remember a young man coming
to me who had made a mistake in the early years
of his marriage and was thousands of dollars in
debt in fact when he told me the figure you
know my first thought is this guy is going to go
bankrupt And he said, I don’t feel comfortable
going bankrupt.
干吧！是战士的面孔在说：我要减肥，而且真做
到了。是战士的面孔在说：我要还清那笔债，虽
然我不知道怎样才能摆脱债务。我记得有个年轻
人来找我，他在婚姻初期犯了个错，欠了几千块
钱的债。他告诉我数目时，我第一个念头是这家
伙要破产了。可他说：“我不想就这样破产。”
17:58 And so what he did is he took two extra jobs. I
mean, he was working in a white-collar profes‐
sional job, but he started throwing newspapers
in the morning and working at a convenience
store on the weekends.
于是他多打了两份工。他本来是做白领专业工作
的，但他开始每天早上送报纸，周末还在便利店
打工。
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18:10 And did so to dig his way out of debt because he
put that warrior face on. It’s the warrior face
that said in a plane not long ago, let’s roll. That’s
the warrior face. And as you know, that face is
the most honored and celebrated of all the
men’s faces. We love warriors, don’t we? We
love to celebrate men who are warriors. We cele‐
brate the warriors in legendary figures like
George Patton or Teddy Roosevelt or Alexander
the Great or William Wallace.
他就这样一点点摆脱了债务，因为他戴上了战士
的面孔。不久前在一架飞机上说“我们上吧”的，
也是战士的面孔。那就是战士的面孔。你们也知
道，在男人所有的面孔中，这张最受尊崇、最受
赞颂。我们都爱战士，不是吗？我们爱赞颂那些
是战士的男人。我们赞颂传奇人物中的战士，像
巴顿将军、西奥多·罗斯福、亚历山大大帝或威
廉·华莱士。
18:45 We love to celebrate the warriors in business
leaders like Ted Turner or Bill Gates or Donald
Trump or Sam Walton or sports warriors like
Michael Jordan or Lance Armstrong, Tiger
Woods. We go to the movies and we enjoy see‐
ing fictional warriors like a gladiator or even a
real life replay of real warriors like Saving
Private Ryan.
我们爱赞颂商界的战士，像泰德·特纳、比尔·
盖茨、唐纳德·特朗普或山姆·沃尔顿，或是体
坛战士，像迈克尔·乔丹、兰斯·阿姆斯特朗、
老虎伍兹。我们去看电影，喜欢看虚构的战士，
比如角斗士，甚至是真实战士的重现，像《拯救
大兵瑞恩》。
19:13 All that stirs the soul of a man because there’s
something within us that enjoys a good fight.
and that’s the warrior face. It’s the man who can
take life head on and win. It’s the guy that can
take the other guy’s best shot and still stand. It’s
the man who works the hardest or the longest
and outlasts the competition. We like the war‐
rior face. Now, sometimes the warrior face can
get out of control. Sometimes we can enjoy that
in a humorous way and you guys know I love
Dave Berry or at least you will know before the
year’s over.
这些都激荡男人的灵魂，因为我们里面有种东西
喜欢痛快地打一仗。那就是战士的面孔。是能正
面迎战人生并且得胜的男人。是能挨下对手最狠
的一拳，仍然屹立不倒的家伙。是工作最拼、坚
持最久、熬过所有对手的男人。我们喜欢战士的
面孔。不过，有时战士的面孔会失控。有时我们
可以用幽默的方式来欣赏这一点，你们知道我很
喜欢戴夫·巴里，至少今年结束前你们会知道。
19:46 and here’s an illustration of the warrior face
kind of gone to the extreme. Dave Berry writes
this column that says, guys aren’t stupid, they
just act that way. He says this, one recent morn‐
ing I was driving in Miami on Interstate 95,
which should have a sign that says, warning,
high testosterone levels next 15 miles.
这里有个例子，说明战士面孔走到极端会怎样。
戴夫·巴里写过一篇专栏，题目是《男人不笨，
只是表现得很笨》。他写道：前不久的一个早
上，我在迈阿密的95号州际公路上开车，这条路
真该立个牌子：注意，前方15英里睾酮浓度超
标。
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20:10 In the left lane, one behind the other, were two
well-dressed middle-aged men both driving lux‐
ury telephone-equipped German automobiles.
They looked like responsible business execu‐
tives, probably both named Roger, with good
jobs and nice families and male pattern bald‐
ness, the kind of guys whose most violent physi‐
cal activity on an average day is stapling.
左车道上，一前一后，是两个衣着体面的中年男
人，都开着配有车载电话的德国豪车。看起来都
是负责任的企业高管，八成都叫罗杰，有好工
作、好家庭，还有男性型秃顶，就是那种平常一
天里最暴力的体力活是钉订书钉的人。
20:39 They were driving normally, except that the guy
in front, Roger 1, was thoughtlessly going only
about 65 miles an hour, which in Miami is the
speed limit normally observed inside car wash‐
es. So Roger, too, pulled up behind until the two
cars were about one electron apart and honked
his horn.
他们本来开得好好的，只是前面那位，罗杰一
号，很不识相地只开到时速65英里左右，在迈阿
密，这通常是洗车房里才遵守的限速。于是罗杰
二号一路贴上去，直到两辆车只差一个电子的距
离，然后按喇叭。
21:01 Of course, Roger, one, was not to stand for that.
You let a guy honk at you, and you are basically
admitting that he has a bigger stapler. So Roger
1 stomped on his brakes, forcing Roger 2 to
swerve onto the shoulder where, showing amaz‐
ing presence of mind in an emergency, he was
able to make obscene gestures with both hands.
罗杰一号当然咽不下这口气。你要是让别人冲你
按喇叭，基本上就等于承认他的订书机比你的
大。于是罗杰一号猛踩刹车，逼得罗杰二号急转
到路肩上，他在紧急关头表现出惊人的镇定，居
然还能双手同时比出不雅手势。
21:27 At this point, both Rogers accelerated to about
147 miles an hour and began weaving violently
through dense rush-hour traffic, each risking
numerous lives in an effort to get in front of the
other, screaming and getting spit all over their
walnut dashboard.
这时，两位罗杰都加速到时速147英里左右，开始
在高峰期拥挤的车流中疯狂穿梭，各自拿无数条
人命冒险，只为了抢到对方前面，一边尖叫，一
边把口水喷满胡桃木仪表板。
21:44 I quickly lost sight of them, but I bet neither one
backed down. Their co-workers probably won‐
dered what had happened to them. Where the
heck is Roger? They probably said later that
morning, unaware that even as they spoke, the
dueling Rogers, still only inches apart, were
probably approaching the Canadian border.
我很快就看不见他们了，但我敢打赌，谁都没让
步。他们的同事大概很纳闷他们去哪了。“罗杰到
底跑哪去了？”那天上午晚些时候他们大概会这么
问，却不知道就在他们说话的时候，这两位决斗
的罗杰，依然相隔不过几寸，可能都快开到加拿
大边境了。
22:05 Well, sometimes the warrior comes out at us in
an extreme like that, and we get out of control.
But here’s what I want you to know about the
warrior. This is a face reflecting conquering en‐
ergy. Conquering energy.
有时候，战士会像这样以极端的方式冒出来，让
我们失控。但关于战士，我想让你们知道这一
点。这是一张反映征服能量的面孔。征服的能
量。
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22:20 This is the face characterized by initiative. The
warrior goes after it. It’s the face characterized
by protecting. Protecting. The warrior is the one
who shields and defends. It provides. It goes out
and gets and says, I’m going to take care of you,
no matter what it takes.
这张面孔的特征是主动出击。战士会勇往直前。
这张面孔的特征是保护。保护。战士就是那个遮
挡、捍卫的人。它供应。它出去争取，然后说：
我会照顾你，不管付出什么代价。
22:44 It’s the face that perseveres in the midst of all
kinds of adversity. It goes on. It’s the face that
fights. And the true warrior face is not a destruc‐
tive force. It’s a very positive energy force. I re‐
member years ago when I first moved to Little
Rock, I’d completed all the classwork for my
doctorate. The only thing left to do was the dis‐
sertation. And yet when I got to Little Rock, I
was several thousand miles from my school,
which was out in California, and they changed
heads of the department.
这张面孔在各种逆境中坚持不懈。它继续向前。
这是战斗的面孔。真正的战士面孔不是一股破坏
力量，而是一股非常正面的能量。我记得多年前
刚搬到小石城的时候，我已经修完了博士学位的
所有课程，只剩下博士论文要写。可是我到了小
石城，离加州的学校有好几千英里远，而且系里
换了系主任。
23:23 And the department, even though it was a theo‐
logical degree, the guy who headed the depart‐
ment said, you know, we want to make this dis‐
sertation much more scientific, so I want every‐
thing that you do to be justified through statisti‐
cal analysis. Well, I’ve never had a statistical
course in my life.
虽然那是个神学学位，新的系主任却说：我们要
让论文更科学一些，所以你做的每一项都要用统
计分析来论证。可我这辈子从没上过统计课。
23:40 And so all of a sudden I was thrown into a real
conflict. And not only that, but we were just hav‐
ing our second child. We were just building our
first home. And it was Christmas, and I needed
to start that dissertation because I had until May
to get it in. And I got to tell you, I had no energy
for it. And that night, the night before I was sup‐
posed to leave and go to Dallas to begin my re‐
search work, it started sleeting outside. And I
was sitting there looking out the window think‐
ing, I don’t need to finish this.
所以我一下子陷入了很大的困境。不只这样，我
们的第二个孩子刚出生，我们正在盖第一栋房
子。那时又正值圣诞节，我必须开始写论文，因
为五月就得交。老实告诉你们，我完全提不起
劲。那天晚上，就是我准备出发去达拉斯开始做
研究的前一晚，外面下起了冻雨。我坐在那里望
着窗外，心想：我不必完成这个了。
24:15 I’ve worked hard, but this is just too much.
You’ve had those moments, haven’t you? When
the mountain just seemed too big to scale. And
then while I was sitting there, something deep
inside of me said, quitter, you’re a quitter.
我已经够努力了，但这实在太难了。你们也有过
这种时刻，对吧？那座山似乎高得根本爬不上
去。就在我坐在那里的时候，我内心深处有个声
音说：“逃兵，你就是个逃兵。”
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24:33 I said, no, I’m not. Yes, you are. Started this war
inside. And at that point, I could feel the warrior
rise up and said, we’re going to get this done.
Get in the car, drive through the sleet and start
the work.
我说：“不，我不是。”“你就是。”内心开始天人
交战。就在那一刻，我能感觉到战士站了起来，
说：“我们一定要把这事做完。”上车，冒着冻雨
开过去，开始干活。
24:51 And that’s what happened. But that comes
through that kind of conquering energy. I’m not
going to quit. I’m going to finish. I’m going to
pay it back. I’m going to get the job done. We’re
going to make this work.
结果就是这样。但这靠的就是那种征服的能量。
我不会放弃。我要完成它。我要把债还清。我要
把事情搞定。我们一定会成功。
25:09 All that comes from an energy within. It’s called
the warrior. You see that in Scripture when in 1
Timothy it says these words, words, pursue
righteousness and godliness and faith and love
and perseverance and gentleness. Fight the good
fight of faith and take hold. The word really
means to seize, seize the eternal life for which
you were called. Now, I want you to look at just
those terms for a moment because those are
what I call noble up terms.
这一切都来自内在的一股能量。它叫作战士。你
在圣经里也能看到，提摩太前书这样说：“追求公
义、敬虔、信心、爱心、忍耐、温柔。你要为真
道打那美好的仗，持定……”这个词其实是“抓住”
的意思，“持定你为此被召的永生。”现在我希望
你们花点时间看看这些词，因为这些就是我所说
的崇高的词。
25:41 Godliness, righteousness, faith, faith, those
things are not easily seized in any man’s life.
Love, perseverance, those are the kind of things
that you have to work hard for. You have to fight
for. And it takes a while to take hold of those
things. But here’s an older man looking into a
young man’s face and calling the warrior out
saying, take up the sword and make these things
work for your life.
敬虔、公义、信心，这些在任何人的生命中都不
容易抓住。爱心、忍耐，这些都是你必须努力追
求的，必须争战才能得到的。而且要花一段时间
才能持定这些东西。但这里是一位年长的人看着
一个年轻人，唤醒他里面的战士，说：拿起剑
来，让这些在你的生命中成真，
26:15 bring them into your life. But it comes through
the warrior. Here’s a third face. The face of the
lover. The face of the lover. Now, the lover is a
face that is unnatural to man as the warrior is
natural. Because lover is more difficult for most
of us as men. It’s the lover that picks up on his
wife’s real needs. It’s the lover who is willing to
let go of another good business deal in order to
spend more time at home.
把它们带进你的生命。但这要靠战士才能做到。
第三张面孔。爱人的面孔。爱人的面孔。战士对
男人来说是天生的，而爱人这张面孔却不是。因
为对我们大多数男人来说，做爱人更难。是爱人
能察觉到妻子真正的需要。是爱人愿意放下又一
笔好生意，好多花点时间在家里。
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26:50 It’s the lover who can open his heart and share
the things that he really feels, rather than hide
those because he feels like he has to have a front
for strength. But he can crack open the door and
share the hurt in his life and the pain, and he
can connect around that kind of sensitivity of
feelings in a world of emotion. This is the face,
by the way, reflecting romantic energy.
是爱人能敞开心扉，分享他真实的感受，而不是
因为觉得要装出坚强的样子就把它们藏起来。他
能把门打开一条缝，分享生命中的伤害和痛苦，
他也能在情感的世界里，凭着那种细腻的感受与
人连结。顺便说一下，这张面孔反映的是浪漫的
能量。
27:18 Romantic energy. This is the face characterized
by tenderness, by sensitivity, by sacrificial care,
by emotional openness, by physical affection. I
want to hear a warrior suddenly put on the face
of a lover.
浪漫的能量。这张面孔的特征是温柔、敏锐、舍
己的关怀、情感上的敞开、身体上的亲密。我想
让你们听听一个战士突然换上爱人面孔的样子。
27:42 This is the letter of a major in the Civil War,
1861, Major Sullivan Ballou, who wrote to his
wife, Sarah, before the Battle of Bull Run. Here’s
what he said to her. Now this is a warrior speak‐
ing. speaking. But suddenly, because he’s got
that balance in his life, he can put on the face of
the lover. He says to her these words. The indi‐
cations, my dear Sarah, are very strong that we
shall move in a few days, perhaps tomorrow.
这是1861年南北战争中一位少校写的信，沙利文
·巴卢少校写给他妻子莎拉的，写在布尔溪战役
之前。他是这样对她说的。注意，这是一个战士
在说话。但突然间，因为他的生命有那种平衡，
他能换上爱人的面孔。他对她说了这些话：“亲爱
的莎拉，种种迹象都强烈表明，我们几天之内就
要开拔，也许就是明天。
28:14 And lest I should not be able to write you again,
I feel impelled to write a few lines that may fall
under your eye when I am no more. I have no
misgivings about or lack of confidence in the
cause in which I am engaged. and my courage
does not halt or falter. I know how great a debt
we owe to those who went before us through the
blood and suffering of the revolution.
唯恐我再也不能给你写信，我觉得必须写下几行
字，好让你在我不在人世时能读到。对于我所投
身的事业，我毫无疑虑，也不缺乏信心，我的勇
气也不曾停顿或动摇。我知道我们欠先辈们多大
的债，他们经历了革命的流血和苦难。
28:37 And I am willing, perfectly willing, to lay down
all my joys in this life to help pay that debt. But
Sarah, my love for you is deathless. It seems to
bind me with mighty cables that nothing but
omnipotence can break.
我愿意，完全愿意，放下此生一切的喜乐，来帮
忙偿还这笔债。但莎拉，我对你的爱至死不渝。
它仿佛用粗壮的绳索把我捆住，唯有全能者才能
挣断。
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28:54 The memory of all the blissful moments I have
enjoyed with you comes crawling over me. And I
feel most deeply grateful to God and to you that
I have enjoyed them for so long. But how hard it
is for me to give them up and burn to ashes the
hopes of future years when, God willing, we
might have lived and loved together and seen
our boys grow up to be honorable men around
us.
与你共度的所有幸福时光，一幕幕涌上我的心
头。我深深感谢神，也感谢你，让我享受了这么
久。但要我放弃这一切，焚毁对未来岁月的盼
望，化为灰烬——若蒙神许可，我们本可以相守
相爱，看着我们的儿子们长大，在我们身边成为
正直可敬的人。
29:20 If I do not return, my dear Sarah, never forget
how much I loved you. Know that when my last
breath escapes me on the battlefield, it will
whisper your name. Forgive my many faults and
the many pains I’ve caused you. How thought‐
less, how foolish I’ve sometimes been. But oh,
Sarah, if the dead can come back to this earth to
flit unseen among those they love, I shall always
be with you in the brightest day and in the dark‐
est night, always with you.
亲爱的莎拉，如果我回不来，永远不要忘记我多
么爱你。要知道，当我在战场上咽下最后一口气
时，那口气会轻声呼唤你的名字。请原谅我的诸
多过错，以及我带给你的许多痛苦。我有时是多
么不体贴，多么愚蠢。但是，噢，莎拉，如果死
者能回到这世上，在所爱的人中间悄然掠过，那
么无论是最明亮的白昼，还是最黑暗的夜晚，我
都会陪着你，永远陪着你。
29:53 And when the soft breeze fans your cheek, it
shall be my breath. Or the cool air on your
throbbing temple, it shall be my spirit passing
by. Sarah, do not mourn me dead. Think I am
gone and then wait for me, for we shall meet
again.
当和风轻拂你的脸颊，那就是我的气息。当凉风
吹过你跳动的太阳穴，那就是我的灵魂经过。莎
拉，不要为我的死哀伤。就当我先走了，然后等
我，因为我们必将再相见。
30:13 A few days later, Sullivan Ballou was killed at
the Battle of Bull Run. He was a warrior, but he
was also a lover. He had the balance of both
faces. Well, this face is seen in Scripture in such
verses as Ephesians 5, 25, when the Apostle Paul
gives a tall order to men in every generation. He
says, husbands, love your wives, just as Christ
also loved the church. And he says, here’s how
he loved the church. Here’s how you are to put
on the face of the lover.
几天后，沙利文·巴卢在布尔溪战役中阵亡。他
是一名战士，但他也是一个爱人。这两张面孔，
他兼顾得很平衡。这张面孔在圣经中也能看到，
比如以弗所书5章25节，使徒保罗向每一代的男人
提出了一个很高的要求。他说：“你们做丈夫的，
要爱你们的妻子，正如基督爱教会。”他还说，基
督是这样爱教会的，你们也要这样戴上爱人的面
孔：
30:51 Jesus Christ gave himself up for the church. And
if you are a husband who knows how to love,
you’ll give yourselves up for your wives as well.
The face of the lover. Then finally, there is the
face of what I call the friend. The friend.
耶稣基督为教会舍己。如果你是一个懂得爱的丈
夫，你也会为你的妻子舍己。这就是爱人的面
孔。最后，还有一张面孔，我称之为朋友。朋
友。
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31:10 And can I say this to this large group? You
know, many men don’t have friends. I’m talking
about real friends. And part of the reason we
don’t have friends, at least in the world we’re liv‐
ing in, the kind of friends that connect with us at
a soul level, is quite frankly, we don’t have time
for friends, do we?
我可以对在座这么多人说句话吗？你知道，很多
男人没有朋友。我是说真正的朋友。我们之所以
没有朋友，部分原因是——至少在我们生活的这
个世界里——那种能在灵魂深处与我们相交的朋
友，说实话，我们根本没时间交朋友，对吧？
31:30 We want a friend. We want that person to give
us his time to invest in us and talk to us and
support us, but we just don’t have the time. And
so we live in these very superficial relationships
where no one around us do we feel close enough
to to really trust with the secret things of our
life.
我们想要朋友。我们希望那个人花时间在我们身
上，投入我们，跟我们谈心，支持我们，可我们
自己就是没时间。于是我们活在非常肤浅的关系
里，身边没有一个人让我们觉得亲近到可以真正
托付生命中的秘密。
31:53 And no one that will let talk tough to us when
someone needs to get in our face. That requires
time. This last summer, I took my son and we
went on a mountain climbing expedition in the
Teton Mountains. And I’d never climbed a sig‐
nificant mountain before, but this summer we
climbed a very significant mountain. And one of
the first things we did, we had a guide and he
pulled out this rope. And we all put the rope
over us and connected with one another to climb
this mountain.
也没有人在我们需要被当面点醒时，对我们说重
话。那需要时间。去年夏天，我带着我儿子去提
顿山脉登山探险。我以前从没爬过什么像样的
山，但这个夏天我们爬了一座真正的大山。我们
最先做的事情之一，是我们的向导拿出一条绳
子。我们都把绳子系在身上，彼此连在一起，去
攀登这座山。
32:28 We belayed up together. and for a while it was
clumsy because you had the rope around you
but you had to hold the rope and one of the first
things we did is we began to scale a 200 foot
sheer cliff and I remember about halfway up
looking down and I was glad I was connected
and then I remember as we got towards the top
we had to go around a little curve on the moun‐
tain side and it was a smooth rock about 10
yards wide with a little lip on it about this wide.
And our guide got to the other side and then
called us out.
我们互相保护着一起往上爬。一开始有点笨手笨
脚，因为绳子绑在身上，还得手抓着绳子。我们
最先做的一件事，就是开始攀爬一面两百英尺高
的峭壁。我记得爬到一半往下看，心想幸好我系
着绳子。然后我记得快到顶的时候，我们得绕过
一个小弯，在山壁上，那是一块大约十码宽的光
滑岩石，上面只有一道小边沿，大概这么宽。我
们的向导到了另一边，然后叫我们过去。
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33:07 It was 2,000 feet straight down. And I remem‐
ber stepping out there and I was glad I was con‐
nected. How foolish it would have been of me at
that moment to say, I don’t need the rope and
I’ll just cut it. I can step out there on my own.
下面是两千英尺的垂直深渊。我记得踏出去的时
候，心想幸好我系着绳子。如果我那时候说“我不
需要绳子，我把它剪断吧，我自己就能走过去”，
那该有多愚蠢。
33:24 But you’d never do that. when you knew that
kind of danger was around you. Because when
you do that, this rope becomes your hangman’s
noose when it’s not connected. And what’s true
of mountain climbing is true of manhood.
但你绝不会那样做，当你知道周围有那样的危险
时。因为你一旦那样做，这条绳子就成了你的绞
索，因为它没连着别人。登山是这样，男子汉气
概也是这样。
33:41 You can’t climb the mountain of manhood dis‐
connected from other men. It’s almost a univer‐
sal principle that if you’re going to be the kind,
well, it is a universal principle, Well, if you’re
going to be the kind of man you’re supposed to
be, you have to be connected with other men
who can speak into your life, who can call out
the best in you, who can cheer for your success‐
es, admire your efforts, and be your friend.
你不可能脱离其他男人，独自攀登男子汉气概这
座山。这几乎是个普遍原则：如果你要成为那种
——不，这就是个普遍原则——如果你要成为你
该成为的那种男人，你就必须和其他男人连结，
让他们能对你的生命说话，能激发你最好的一
面，能为你的成功喝彩，欣赏你的努力，做你的
朋友。
34:16 Because that’s what a real friend is. This is a face
reflecting connecting energy. The friend face.
And it’s characterized by things like loyalty and
accountability and challenge and fun. One of the
reasons I think guys love coming in here is be‐
cause deep in their hearts they sense, I can con‐
nect with some other men on something more
than just the superficialities of life.
因为这才是真正的朋友。这张面孔反映的是连结
的能量。朋友的面孔。它的特点是忠诚、问责、
挑战和乐趣。我想很多人喜欢来这里，原因之一
是他们内心深处感觉到，我可以和其他男人连
结，不只停留在生活的表面。
34:49 Maybe, somehow, in some way, I can connect, I
can join with some other man where I can begin
to talk with him about some of the deep things
in my heart. Of course, I need to find out for my‐
self what even some of those things are because
I don’t know, but there’s something rumbling
around in there. But if I could just get those out
and deliver that into someone else’s hands who
could safely handle them and talk back to me
and help me manage and shape and think
through who I am and where I’m going.
也许，不管怎样，我能够连结，能和另一个男人
走在一起，开始跟他谈谈我内心深处的一些东
西。当然，我得先自己搞清楚那些到底是什么，
因为我也不知道，但里面确实有东西在翻腾。如
果我能把它们掏出来，交到另一个人手里，他能
稳妥地对待，给我回应，帮我梳理、塑造、想清
楚我是谁、我要往哪里去。
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35:24 Man, that’s a friend. It’s also a friend who comes
around who’s noticed in your life the good
things when no one else is noticing and compli‐
ments you on it. It’s the friend who comes up
alongside you when he sees you beginning to
stray from the path and because of the deep re‐
lationship that you have, he can call you back.
哥们，这就是朋友。朋友也是这样一个人：他会
来到你身边，看见你生命中的美好，在别人都没
注意的时候称赞你。朋友就是那个在看到你开始
偏离正路时来到你身边的人，因为你们关系很
深，他能把你叫回来。
35:45 But a lot of guys don’t have friends because they
themselves are not friend worthy. Are you friend
worthy? To be friend worthy means you have to
have connecting energy to other men. You have
to be willing to risk and to reach out and to
spend time with and cultivate another relation‐
ship. Here’s the way the scripture says it. In
Proverbs 17, 17, it says, A friend loves at all
times, and a brother is born for adversity.
但很多男人没有朋友，因为他们自己就不值得做
朋友。你值得做朋友吗？值得做朋友，意味着你
要有连结的能量，去连结其他男人。你得愿意冒
险、主动伸手、花时间去经营另一段关系。圣经
是这么说的。箴言17章17节说：朋友乃时常亲
爱，弟兄为患难而生。
36:21 I bet for some of you and where you are in life,
even as I speak those things, because of the ad‐
versity that you’re in, you’d say, I’d love to have
a guy like that next to me right now. But a friend
loves at all times.
我敢说，你们有些人在人生现在这个阶段，就在
我讲这些的时候，因为正处在患难中，会说：真
希望现在身边有这样一个人。但朋友乃时常亲
爱。
36:36 Scripture also says in Proverbs 27, 17, As iron
sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
We need another man rubbing up against us to
rub off some of the hard spots in our life. That
takes friendships. So these four faces are the
four faces of manhood. Hopefully synchronized
and balanced together. The king face, the war‐
rior face, the lover face, the friend face. Now
what I want to do in conclusion is make just a
few final but important observations about these
faces.
圣经在箴言27章17节也说：铁磨铁，磨出刃来；
朋友相感也是如此。我们需要另一个男人跟我们
相互磨砺，磨掉我们生命中一些坚硬的棱角。这
需要友谊。所以这四张面孔就是男子汉的四张面
孔。最好是彼此协调、保持平衡。君王的面孔、
战士的面孔、爱人的面孔、朋友的面孔。最后，
我想就这些面孔再讲几点简短但重要的观察。
37:16 Here’s the first, letter A on your outline. All too
often these honorable faces of manhood are re‐
placed by what I call ugly caricatures. Now
you’ve got a little diagram in your outline that I
handed out, and I want to show you what I
mean by that. Here are these four faces. and the
king face, if we lean too far to the right of the
king face, you don’t get the king anymore. You
get a tyrant.
第一点，提纲上的A。这些可敬的男子汉面孔，
常常被我所说的丑陋的扭曲形象取代。我发给你
们的提纲里有个小图，我来给你们解释一下我的
意思。这就是这四张面孔。君王的面孔，如果太
往右偏，你得到的就不再是君王，而是暴君。
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37:43 Isn’t that right? And if you lean too far to the left
on the king face, you don’t get a king who’s got
righteous energy. You’ve got an abdicator.
You’ve got someone who has compromised him‐
self, himself has thrown down the sword and
surrendered righteousness.
对不对？如果君王的面孔太往左偏，你得到的就
不是有公义能量的君王，而是一个弃权者。一个
妥协了自己的人，他亲手丢下刀剑，放弃了公
义。
38:11 The warrior face, if you lean too far to the right,
you don’t get a real warrior, you get a destroyer.
You get someone who’s abusive, harsh, the per‐
son who hurts not only himself, but his family. If
he leans too far to the left, you don’t get a war‐
rior at all, you get a wimp.
战士的面孔，如果太往右偏，你得到的不是真战
士，而是毁灭者。一个暴虐、严厉的人，不仅伤
害自己，也伤害他的家人。如果他太往左偏，你
得到的根本不是战士，而是个窝囊废。
38:30 Someone who has no conquering energy just
gives up, surrenders. When you see that in
sports, when you see after a game and when the
score gets too far ahead, you can watch the op‐
ponent drop his head, he surrendered. The war‐
rior’s gone. He’s great hulks of men. The warrior
spirit’s left them.
毫无征服的能量，直接放弃、投降。你在体育比
赛里就能看到，比赛中比分被拉得太开的时候，
你会看到对手垂下头，他投降了。战士不见了。
一个个高大魁梧的汉子，战士的精神却离开了他
们。
38:58 A lot of guys who have given up the warrior. It’s
not worth it. On the side of the lover, if you lean
too far to the right, you become critical and
harsh. You’re not someone who people are
drawn to, much less your family or your sons or
daughters, because you constantly are critiquing
them.
很多男人已经放弃了做战士。觉得不值得。爱人
这一面，如果太往右偏，你就会变得挑剔、严
厉。别人不会想靠近你，更别说你的家人、你的
儿女了，因为你总是在批评他们，
39:23 and very rarely are you loving them pointing out
what they did wrong rather than embellishing
what they did right not picking up on the real
needs because often times you’re so focused on
your own if you lean too far to the left you be‐
come cold and withdrawn you become a rock
and an island disconnected from the love rela‐
tionships around you.
很少去爱他们，总是指出他们哪里做错了，而不
是称赞他们做对的地方，也察觉不到他们真正的
需要，因为你常常只顾着自己的需要。如果太往
左偏，你就会变得冷漠、封闭，变成一块石头、
一座孤岛，和身边的爱的关系断了联系。
39:58 You can be a friend, but if you lean too far to the
right, you become a user. It’s like Alan Toffler
said many years ago in Future Shock. He said
the world would speed up so quick to where
rather than have friends, we would have what he
called Kleenex relationships. Relationships.
你可以做朋友，但如果太往右偏，你就成了利用
别人的人。就像阿尔文·托夫勒多年前在《未来
的冲击》里说的，他说世界会变得越来越快，快
到我们不再有朋友，而是有他所谓的“纸巾式关
系”。这种关系，
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40:17 We would take them, use them, throw them
away. That’s how we treat our friends. Lean too
far to the right, you become a user. If you lean
too far to the left, you become a loner. The dis‐
connected guy. The friendless American male.
拿来，用完，就扔掉。我们就是这样对待朋友
的。太往右偏，你就成了利用别人的人；太往左
偏，你就成了独行侠，和别人断了联系的人，没
有朋友的美国男人。
40:36 Often the honorable faces become ugly carica‐
tures. And then our world reacts to men. And
says, see, all men are brutes. All men are insen‐
sitive. Steve, have you heard those words be‐
fore? All men are loners. They just use people.
这些可敬的面孔常常变成了丑陋的漫画。然后世
人就对男人有了反应，说：“看吧，男人都是野蛮
人。男人都麻木不仁。”史蒂夫，你听过这种话
吧？“男人都是独行侠，他们只会利用别人。”
40:52 And oftentimes those are the faces, but they’re
just caricatures of the real deal. Secondly, be‐
cause of our morally compromised culture,
many men today lack the king in their life. And
without a king, the warrior becomes unre‐
strained. If you don’t have a king in your life, the
warrior can become unrestrained, hurting lives,
including your own in the process. You see, if
what a man has in his life is a strong warrior but
a weak king, the warrior gets out of control.
很多时候我们看到的确实是这些面孔，但它们只
是真东西的漫画版。第二，因为我们的文化道德
妥协，今天很多男人生命中缺少君王。没有君
王，战士就会失去约束。如果你生命中没有君
王，战士就会失控，伤害别人的生命，连你自己
也一起赔进去。你看，如果一个男人里面战士很
强，君王却很弱，战士就会失控，
41:24 It begins to rob and pillage and cheat and forni‐
cate and beat and abuse and overindulge be‐
cause there is no king riding the warrior and
helping the warrior live for the right things. A
warrior without a king is a destroyer. And often‐
times that’s happened today in our world where
our world kind of honors a dumbed down im‐
moral masculinity.
开始抢夺、掠夺、欺骗、淫乱、殴打、虐待，放
纵无度，因为没有君王驾驭这个战士，帮助战士
为正确的事而活。没有君王的战士就是毁灭者。
今天我们的世界常常就是这样，这个世界有点推
崇一种降格的、不道德的男性气概。
41:54 Third, our increasingly feminized culture has
emasculated the warrior in many young men.
The result has been the creation of what I call
the soft male. Indecisive as to direction and
weak as to leadership.
第三，我们日益女性化的文化阉割了很多年轻男
人里面的战士。结果造就了我所说的“软男人”，
方向上犹豫不决，领导上软弱无力。
Calgary Rainbow Christian Church 兄弟团契专⽤ 02 · The Four Faces of Manhood
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42:14 We talked last week about a culture that increas‐
ingly disconnects fathers from sons and really in
the last 30 years has really spurred on the war‐
rior spirit in women. And as men have grown
quiet in that environment, and as young men
are raised primarily in overly dominated female
environments, what it’s done is it’s stolen the
warrior out of a lot of young men’s lives.
上周我们谈到一种文化，让父亲和儿子越来越疏
离，而在过去三十年里，它真的激发了女性身上
的战士精神。在这样的环境里，男人变得沉默，
年轻男孩主要在女性过度主导的环境中长大，结
果就是从很多年轻男人的生命中偷走了战士。
42:44 They’ve grown up where the warrior’s been sup‐
pressed because the right spirit of a warrior is
usually called out of a young man by older men,
calling him to become that kind of warrior. But
oftentimes in a female environment, the warrior
is downplayed or suppressed. Don’t hit Johnny,
stop.
他们成长的环境压抑了战士，因为一个年轻人身
上正确的战士精神，通常是由年长的男人呼召出
来的，呼召他成为那样的战士。但在女性的环境
里，战士常常被淡化或压制。“不准打约翰尼，住
手。”
43:07 And what you get is what I call the feminized
man, not the effeminate man who has feminine
characteristics, the feminized man who can be
strong and tough looking on the outside. But
when it comes to initiative, they wait.
结果就出现了我所说的“被女性化的男人”，不是
带有女性特征的娘娘腔，而是外表看起来可以很
强壮、很硬朗的被女性化的男人。但说到主动，
他们等待；
43:24 When it comes to leadership, they’re soft. When
it comes for the moment of decision, they defer,
often to a woman. And the reason they do is be‐
cause the warrior is gone. Instead, it’s the soft
male. Here’s what I want you to know, and this
is the last point today, and we’ll close. Our world
today is desperate to see in men this four-faced
balance of manhood.
说到领导，他们软弱；到了做决定的时候，他们
退让，常常是让给女人。原因就是战士不见了，
取而代之的是软男人。我想让你们知道的是，这
也是今天最后一点，然后我们就结束。今天我们
的世界迫切地想在男人身上看到男子汉这四张面
孔的平衡。
44:02 That’s what our world wants to see. North,
south, east and west Those are the four points
on a compass Winter, spring, summer, fall
Those are four seasons in the year Earth, wind,
fire, water Those are four elements on the earth
King, warrior, lover, friend Those are the four
faces of manhood And guys, here’s the question
for you this morning When you look in the mir‐
ror what kind of man do you see next week we’re
going to start unwrapping in earnest our own
manhood but that’s next week
这正是我们的世界想看到的。东南西北，这是指
南针上的四个方位；春夏秋冬，这是一年的四个
季节；土、风、火、水，这是地上的四种元素；
君王、战士、爱人、朋友，这是男子汉的四张面
孔。弟兄们，今天早上我要问你们一个问题：当
你照镜子时，你看到的是什么样的男人？下周我
们要开始认真剖析我们自己的男子汉气概，不过
那是下周的事了