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诗歌
3 耶稣是我的救主
耶稣是我的救主，
使我预尝祂荣耀。
已蒙血赎回恩赐，
已由灵重生后嗣。
完全顺服之甘甜，
被提景象显眼前。
倾听有声从天来，
轻声述说怜与爱。
完全顺服得安息，
与主交通无奥密。
儆醒等候望主来，
饱主恩典盼主爱。
吟出内心的诗歌，
赞美我救主不息。
吟出内心的诗歌，
赞美我救主不息。
奉主颂赞荣耀神! 阿们 !
巽文
每日活灵(259)…
音频 三分钟
「谅必你们曾听见神赐恩给我，将关切你们的职分托付我」【弗3: 2】
神不要我们作胡涂人，神喜欢我们明白祂的旨意。神的旨意是可以藉寻求而认识的，并非深奥难懂的。
我们放下属世的智慧和骄傲，用谦卑的心寻求属灵的智慧，自必能得着从上头来的智慧，在真道上更深认识神了。
作神的工人，这种职分并非只要有才干、学问、口才就可以成功，还必须有一种关切人的爱心。否则不能作一个得人的渔夫。
职分本身竟然是一种恩赐！那是恩赐的赋予。它暗示我们：神若呼召一个人去作祂的工，祂也必然赐于他特别的恩赐。
神所托付属灵的责任，是神的恩典，不是重担。神的恩典不是给我们个人奢侈享用的，而是要我们欢欢喜喜地与别人分享。
再说，管家的职分含有分赐的意思。在这样的分配中，总是施行一种适当的管制。万有在基督里归一于一个元首之下，不是借着政府的行政而有的，乃是来自甜美的管家职分，亲密的家庭管理，以及令人愉快的分赐。
借着将三一神丰盛生命的供应，分赐到我们里面而发生的。神借着甜美、亲密的管家职分，将祂自己作到祂所拣选的人里面。保罗的职事就是这一种管家职分。这职分乃是恩典之经纶的模型，将神当作恩典分赐到祂所拣选的人里面。
藉着这恩典的经纶，就是借着将神自己分赐进来作我们的享用，生命的因素就供应到蒙拣选的人里面。当生命的因素进到他们里面时，他们就能站起来，并在身体里面联于基督。这就是将万有在基督里归一于一个元首之下的经纶。奉主蒙恩! 阿们!
诗歌
1 十字架
颂聆三分鈡
1 十字架
我每念那十字架，
并念主在上受熬。
我就不禁浑忘身，
鄙视从前所倨傲。
主禁我别有所夸，
除基督的十字架。
前所爱虚空荣华，
今为祂情愿丢下。
看祂全身头脚手！
忧情慈爱血而流。
有爱忧如此相遘，
荆棘编成此冕旒。
看祂全身满披血，
如穿上朱红衣饰。
此我与世界断绝，
世界向我也已死。
假若宇宙归我手，
尽以奉主仍可羞。
爱如此奇妙深厚，
当得我心命所有。
奉主颂赞荣耀神! 阿们 !
诗歌
2 主耶稣曾流血？
颂聆三分鈡
主耶稣真曾流血。
祂真曾舍命亡躬。
祂肯牺牲祂超越，
而为我这个小虫。
祂在木上那哀叹，
可是为我罪愆免。
怜悯全满慈爱泛。
恩典泛滥其无边。
难怪太阳立变乌，
隐藏一切耀荣光。
当神基督造物主，
为人担罪赎而亡。
当我看见十字架，
也当隐藏祂羞脸。
心当溶化出感嗟，
眼当流泪发自贬。
但这满腔的忧伤，
不能稍还主爱债。
我主在此奉一生，
聊上表此心感戴。
奉主颂赞荣耀神! 阿们!
巽文
每日活灵(258)…
音频 三分钟
「惟用爱心说诚实话，凡事长进，连于元首基督；全身都靠祂联络得合式，百节各按各职，照着各体的功用，彼此相助，便叫身体渐渐增长，在爱中建立自己。」【弗4: 15-16】
惟有讲真理，才能对付欺骗人的异端与狡猾的哲理。因为真理是硬的，是冷的，惟有爱是热的，是有生命的。爱使人熔化在身体的生命里，而连于元首基督。
在话语上作神出口的人须知，引导别人信服真道的秘诀，乃在用爱心说诚实话，而非高言大智或矜夸的虚言。不用爱心说的话，常会被人误解与不可信。
因着爱神，就能忍受别人的误会，而不计算代价的持守真理。在追求长进的事上，最大的难处就是遇不见主。
教会的一切活动，若不连于基督，不尊基督为首，便都是死的。所有的肢体都连于元首，和头有正常的联系，彼此之间才能有正常的关系。
许多基督徒都在谈论教会，但在他们的谈论中，‘教会’这辞的意义都失去其義。然而，在以弗所书中，教会的意义太丰富了。但你若不认识什么是在基督里归一于一个元首之下，你就不认识教会的原意。
基督身体的建立，乃在于各肢体的配搭相助；而各肢体的真实配搭，甜美相助，惟在各肢体都持定元首基督为目标，凡事在祂里面成长。
基督身体里的每一个肢体都各有其功用，所有的肢体都活动起来，才能使身体成长；
如果只有一个恩赐强的工人传神的道，但是大部份的人却是只坐在那里享用属灵的供应，这地方教会还不能算是在建造中。教会建造的实行，是全教会都动员的，各站各的岗位，众人都一同运用自己所有的那一份恩赐，配搭起来一同服事主。
教会只有在爱的气氛中才能增长。在教会生活中，人的努力不能帮助归一于一个元首之下。我们需要长大，并帮助肢体成长！我们需要以生命的供应彼此服事，彼此帮助长大。奉主蒙恩! 阿们!
巽文
每日活灵(257)…
音频 三分钟
「豺狼必与绵羊羔同居，豹子与山羊羔同卧，少壮狮子与牛犊并肥畜同群；小孩子要牵引它们。」【赛11: 6】
弥赛亚掌王权之时，一切不安、危险、敌对、邪恶都必彻底移除，人际之间、人与神关系。以及普世各种境界，出现奇妙平安、和谐安全的景象。
弥赛亚基督要在荣耀里同众天使降临，坐在荣耀的宝座上。主若显现，我们必要像祂，因为必得见祂的真体。
我们要谨慎自守，专心盼望耶稣基督显现的时候所带来的救恩。千禧年天下太平，犹太人回归家园，恢复神选民身份和神儿女的地位，与神同工，看守治理新天新地。
背道的敌基督逼迫世人都接受虚假宗教。神原来拣选以色列人做祂持守恩言和救恩的器皿。因以色列背道拒绝，将由遵行神旨意，心受割礼的真以色列人，将神的训诲和基督福音传到地极。
我们已经看见，因着罪恶的背叛，神创造中的万有都崩溃成为乱堆；没有正确的元首身分。国攻打国，民攻打民，族攻打族。但是圣经清楚的启示，当千年国来临时，列国都要停止争战。
在千年国中，没有武器。论到在千年国期间动物国度的情形，所有的动物都要归一于一个元首之下，和睦同居。不仅如此，田野的树木也都拍掌，在和谐中一同歌唱赞美神。愿田和其中所有的都欢乐；那时林中的树木，都要在耶和华面前欢呼。这是描绘万物在基督里归一于一个元首之下的光景。当这事发生时，在人类的国度、动物的国度和植物的国度中，就有完全的和平与和谐，因为万物要完全从崩溃的混乱中得着拯救。奉主蒙恩! 阿们!
医药和健康
Testimony…
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The sudden coronavirus epidemic interrupted Peng Yinhua and his wife’s planned wedding, and the undistributed invitations were still in the drawer. As a respiratory physician at the First People’s Hospital of Jiangxia District in Wuhan, when the epidemic came, Peng Yinhua had the responsibility to go to the front line of the war against the “epidemic”. Chinese New Year’s Eve two people stood two or three hundred meters apart, facing each other, and talked on a phone. People have no way of knowing what they’re saying.
The next day, Peng Yinhua was infected and never had the opportunity to stand in the postponed wedding and be the one who kissed the bride. Less than a month later, the plague snatched the 29-year-old groom-to-be from his lover.
Also taken away by the virus was Wu Shilei. He and his wife Xia Sisi are both doctors and have been together for 11 years. “From the time she was hospitalized until she left, she hid it from her children. But now, I don’t know what to tell my child that I lost his mother. On February 23, Xia Sisi’s death made this big man cry.
An epidemic has made many people feel that love is stronger than death, that the water cannot be extinguished, and the water cannot be submerged. After the pandemic, we need to love each other. However, for others, being forced to be imprisoned at home with their families and looking at each other 24 hours a day also magnifies the contradictions that have never appeared before, and love is not easier because of the epidemic, but more difficult. Some people say: As soon as the epidemic passes, we will go to divorce. Being imprisoned at home, looking at each other and not pleasing each other’s eyes, and unable to love each other, has become a stronger cage for us, as if we can imprison people for a lifetime.
Those who were left
Looking back at December 2019, the movie “The Man Taken by the Light” released on the last quiet days of the year, it seems to have a special feeling. Coincidentally, this film happened to be filmed in Yichang, Hubei Province. Director and screenwriter Dong Runian presuppose an extreme situation similar to the plague in the film: a magical white light suddenly descends, and people in love mysteriously disappear in pairs. Under the sci-fi shell, the camera focuses on those left by the light.
White light seems to be the judge who understands the true meaning of love, dividing people in two according to secret standards. When the pair of “Liang Shanbo” and “Zhu Yingtai” who were summoned by the white light disappeared, how should these people on the earth who were abandoned by love live? The plague is a bit like that white light, enclosing us in a small space, forcing us to ask ourselves whether the person who once swore with us, shared a bed, and met with the white head is still true love.
The film chooses several different sets of protagonists to express different love dilemmas. Liu Jiayi, a rich woman, secretly took the household registration book and planned to get married to her boyfriend. Due to the opposition of their parents, their love suffered setbacks, and the appearance of white light made Liu Jiayi doubt love. Faced with Liu Jiayi’s suspicions, her boyfriend jumped down from the stairs – is it, not true love to die for her beloved? Is this desire to desperately possess the other person’s love? “In order to possess you, I will not hesitate to die”. If you can’t get it, you don’t hesitate to destroy your girlfriend by rape, and then destroy yourself.
Whether there is love between them or not, it is certain that they have passion. Many couples who have been married for many years have even exhausted this passion. Wu Wenwen, played by Huang Bo, and Zhang Yan, played by Tan Zhuo, are a middle-aged couple with a daughter who is in middle school, a family of three, firewood, rice, oil, and salt, just like the neighbors we met walking in the community. The seemingly harmonious husband and wife relationship has cracked with the appearance of white light, or in other words, cracks have long existed, and white light makes it invisible.
Wu Wen’s mother gave a verdict on behalf of Bai Guang: “She doesn’t love you anymore, you don’t love her anymore, you don’t love her anymore.” There are only a few possibilities. Although Wu Wen has always tried to deny it, his heart gradually doubts and wavers about the love between the two. As an excellent teacher, Wu Wenwen has never crossed the thunder pond in the face of the emotional offensive of female colleagues, and their relationship is simply exemplary compared to many bloody couples who eventually break up unhappily.
But on the other hand, two people under the same roof have long lost their passion, and even the bed scene of the husband and wife at the beginning of the film is halfway through the discussion of martial arts title evaluation. It’s a scene like Eliot’s poem, “Thank goodness, this is finally over.” In addition to the evaluation of professional titles, the husband and wife seem to have no intersection, and love is like being in the “wasteland”.
Under the illumination of white light, this bland and tasteless husband and wife relationship can hardly be called “love”. Therefore, Wuwen used “family affection” as a cover in front of his daughter, and created the illusion that love was still there in front of colleagues and friends. Conversely, it is scarcity that camouflage is needed. The cruel years left the couple with only trivial matters, except for the children’s tuition and grades, washing pots and dishes, and living expenses, the two can no longer think of other common topics.
Where is love?
When Wu Wenwen discovered the ambiguous text messages between his wife and his daughter’s classmate Zhao Feng, perhaps on the one hand filled his chest with anger, on the other hand, he breathed a sigh of relief, it turned out that the fault was not me, and his wife was responsible for the loveless marriage. Perhaps the wife is not responsible, the crux of the marriage problem lies with the third party, driving him away, and their marriage will be completely new. Therefore, Wu Wen found Zhao Feng and swore that if Zhao Feng had not appeared, there would be no rift in the relationship between him and his wife. Unexpectedly, Zhao Feng asked: “Why do you think that the problem between the two of you is me, why don’t you face the reality – you just don’t love each other?”
Zhao Feng saw through the hypocrisy of martial arts at a glance, “I used to be as hypocritical as you, and I always felt that if I admit that there is no love, the husband and wife can’t face each other… It wasn’t until this light appeared that I suddenly realized that this light was the final judgment that warned us not to lie again. It tears off the pretense of all of us, everyone is equal and everyone is real. ”
For those who believe that love is the foundation of marriage, it is difficult to admit that there is no love between husband and wife, which means that the legitimacy of the existence of marriage has been fundamentally shaken. For many people, two seem to be difficult to have both fish and bear’s paw, and it seems that to maintain a marriage it is necessary to say goodbye to love, and to find love it is necessary to endure the breakdown of marriage. Wu Wenwen received a confession text message from a female colleague at this time, marriage or love?
The way Zhao Feng and his wife face a loveless marriage is to neither save the marriage nor save love. Since the camouflage has been torn, then the jar is broken and broken, and it falls to the end. Under the empty shell of a marriage, they openly lived a life of sexual promiscuity. Wu Wen was persuaded by Zhao Feng to admit the fact that there was no love between himself and his wife, but he still looked forward to love, so he accepted the confession of his female colleague, intending to rediscover the passion of love outside of marriage.
However, is true love outside of marriage? This question was answered by the director through Li Nan, played by Wang Luodan. When the white light occurred, Li Nan was waiting outside the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the divorce procedures with her husband, but her husband disappeared. It is neither herself nor the mistress who cheated on her husband and disappeared with her husband. In this way, by mistake, Li Nan began to track down the truth of her husband’s disappearance with Xiaomian to know who his true love was.
In the pursuit, the women who have emotional entanglements with their husband appear one by one, allowing her to discover the harsh reality of love. When he first got married, his husband felt that he had found the other half of his dreams, and he loved Li Nan’s independence. However, time passed, and Li Nan’s independence gradually became a lack of interest in her husband’s eyes, and love slowly disappeared. He began to look for love outside of marriage. He fell in love with the enthusiasm of the mistress, but he couldn’t stand the entanglement of the other party… The husband began to look for love from relationship to relationship, but love was always elusive and came and went in a hurry. Finding love by constantly changing people is like drinking to quench your thirst. In the end, Li Nan’s husband did not disappear with any lover but died unexpectedly in a car accident. Until his death, the husband could not find true love in anyone.
Save yourself before you save the love
When Li Nan learned that her husband was looking for love from a woman, she felt very relieved, it turned out that the problem was not in herself or in the mistress, but that her husband “loves everyone, and no one loves.” In other words, the reason why love disappears is not so much that the other person is no longer cute, but that he is incapable of love.
Wu Wen and his female colleagues opened a house and began a journey to find love outside of marriage. What he will face in the future may be the same as Li Nan’s husband. But the director reserved a little reflective ability for martial arts. While waiting for his female colleague in his hotel room, Wu Wen was anxious and struggling, and at one point wanted to escape. When he finally invites his female colleague into the room, he realizes that it is futile to find salvation outside of marriage, because the crux of everything is not in others, the root of the problem is himself.
Clearing his wife’s affair partner will not save his marriage; looking for another relationship will not save his love, all he needs is to start with himself. The white light that broke into the couple’s life forced his marriage into a corner, and he could not continue to pretend that everything was business as usual. Just like the plague at the turn of winter and spring, it can have the same effect on your and my lives.
“Subconsciously, I want to say that the responsibility for me and my wife not being taken away by the light is not mine. I asked you out to get revenge or for some other reason, but I was thinking about myself. I’m a hypocrite. Wu Wenwen said, “I quarreled with Zhang Yan before, and I hated her.” Even thinking about the brain slipped away, thinking that she encountered some bad pictures… Actually, over the years, I know you like me. Often when I face you, I even think of some dishonorable things. After slowly realizing it, I will take my thoughts back. When I was younger, I had more dirty thoughts, and at that time I would secretly feel inferior, and I would worry that others would detect my thoughts and look down on me. Later, I slowly began to forgive myself and explain all this in terms of ego, id, and superego. ”
After listening to the self-analysis of martial arts, the female colleague agreed, “We are all too confident, we feel that others are hell, what about ourselves?” and “We are no longer in love”, which are the reasons that many couples give themselves. The deeper reality observed by Wuwen is that “we are no longer in love because my brain often slips around because my thoughts are full of dirt.” The bigger truth is that “I am a selfish sinner.” How to redeem a loveless marriage? Like Zhao Feng, husband, and wife fall into sexual depravity together. Like Li Nan’s lover, chase ideal love everywhere outside marriage? The film points to the third way through martial literature: dealing with one’s own problems in marriage.
Wu Wen not only reflected on what he did but more importantly, on what kind of person he was. This brief self-reflection may not be unfamiliar to us. When arguing with our lover, we may also experience the dryness of love in ourselves, and sometimes solve our marital difficulties through fantasies about others. In either case, according to martial arts, the root is that “I am thinking about myself.” “The people left in the camera who are left with light are essentially loving themselves more, despite the different cloaks they wear.
Stop loving people like fish
Contemporary Jewish Rabbi A. Abraham J. Twerski has a wise talk about love.
“The word love has almost lost its original meaning in our culture. A rabbi met a young man who was enjoying a meal of fish and asked, ‘Young man, why are you eating this fish?’ He said, ‘Oh, you love this fish.’ So you scoop it out of the water, kill it and cook it. Don’t tell me you love this fish, it’s not love, you love yourself. You think the fish is delicious and eat it. ’”
In Tversky’s view, most of the world’s so-called love is similar to the love of young people in the story about fish. It means that the man sees in the woman that the other person can meet his physical and emotional needs. At the same time, the other party also thinks that he can feel the so-called ‘love’ from the man. But both parties are just looking for their own needs in each other, not love for each other. The other person becomes a tool to meet their own needs. There are too many so-called ‘loves’ in the world, just the kind of love for fish. Tversky argues that true love “is not about what I get, it’s about what I give.”
True love must be the experience of selfless pleasure. And most of the couples in the film have lost the ability to get pleasure from sacrificing for each other. Wu Wen’s female colleague said, “We… She continued, “Who can control hell?” Through the mouth of a female colleague, the director may want to express that this love that only cares about himself needs to be saved, but the question is where does salvation come from?
The modern prevalent ethic of self-actualization can destroy marriage. Christian theologian Hou Huoshi said: “This ethic holds that the purpose of marriage and family institutions is primarily to achieve personal fulfillment, to make us whole and happy. This theory assumes that there is a person who is the best fit for us, and if we look carefully, we can find that person. In fact, the point of marriage is… Learn how to care for the stranger you marry. ”
Self-centeredness is the most damaging problem in many marriages, and it is a cancer in marriage. American pastor Timothy Keller believes that there is no way out for today’s culture to preach “self-centered marriage”, and that only when both parties continue to put each other’s happiness before their own can they find their own happiness.
When the Bible refers to marriage, it compares it to a great mystery that symbolizes Jesus’ relationship with humanity. The most important manifestation of the love of husband and wife is a sacrifice for each other, “love is not seeking one’s own good”. The source of this self-serving love is Christ. “Jesus… He sacrificed everything so that we might be united with Him… This practice has completely changed our attitude and way of life. Keller’s advice is straightforward: “What God has done for you in Jesus, you will do for your spouse, and everything else will fall into place.” ”
As in the interactive topic “Love in the Plague Period” before “Realm”, a female doctor once said in the heart: “I have confidence in the epidemic, but I have no confidence in our feelings”. When the white light flashes, when the plague dissipates, may you and I experience self-sacrificing love from the source of love for the rest of our lives and use it to love the people around us.
医药和健康
见证篇180.《被…
突如其来的新冠疫情打断了彭银华和妻子筹备中的婚礼，没有分发出去的请柬还放在抽屉里。作为武汉江夏区第一人民医院的呼吸内科医生，疫情来临时，彭银华责无旁贷走上战“疫”前线。大年三十两个人隔着两三百米，面对面站着通了一个电话。人们无从知晓他们说了什么。
第二天，彭银华就被感染了，再也没有机会站在被推迟的婚礼中，成为亲吻新娘的那一位。不到一个月之后，瘟疫就把这位29岁的准新郎从爱人身边抓走了。
同样被病毒带走了爱人的还有吴石磊。他和妻子夏思思都是医生，在一起11年时间。“从她住院到离开，都瞒着孩子。可现在，我不知道该怎么跟孩子说，我把他妈妈弄丢了。” 2月23日，夏思思的离世，让这个大男人泣不成声。
一场疫情让许多人感受到，爱情比死亡还要坚强，众水不能熄灭，大水也不能淹没。疫情过后，我们要好好相爱。不过，对另一些人来说，被迫与家人一起囚禁在家，24小时全天候对视，也使从前隐而未现的矛盾无限放大，爱情并没有因为疫情而容易，反而更加步履维艰。有些人说：疫情一过，我们就去离婚。被囚在家，相看两厌、互不顺眼，无法相爱的心成为我们更坚固的牢笼，仿佛可以将人囚禁一世。
那些被剩下的人
现在回头看2019年12月，在岁月最后的静好日子里上映的电影《被光抓走的人》，似乎别有感触。巧的是，这部片子恰好是在湖北宜昌拍摄的。导演兼编剧董润年在影片中预设了一种类似于瘟疫的极端处境：一道神奇的白光突然降临，相爱的人们成双成对地神秘失踪。在科幻的外壳下，镜头对准了那些被光剩下的人。
白光似乎是洞悉爱情真谛的审判者，按照隐秘的标准将人一分为二。当那些被白光选召的“梁山伯”与“祝英台”一对对“化蝶”消失之后，地上这些被爱情遗弃的人们该如何生活呢？瘟疫有点像那道白光，将我们圈在一个狭小的空间，逼我们自问那个曾经与我山盟海誓、同床共枕、相约白首不相离的人是否依然真爱？真爱的标准又掌握在谁的手里？
影片选择了几组不同的主人公来表达不同的爱情困境。富家女刘佳一偷偷拿了户口本，打算与男朋友领证结婚。由于父母的反对，他们的爱情遭遇挫折，白光的出现更使得刘佳一对爱情产生了怀疑。面对刘佳一的怀疑，男朋友从楼上一跃而下——为心爱的人去死，难道还不是真爱？不过男朋友在挑战自杀前，先将刘佳一强奸。这种拼命占有对方的渴望是爱吗？“为了占有你，我不惜去死”。在得不到的情况下，不惜将女友通过强暴的方式摧毁，继而将自己也摧毁。
无论他们之间是否有爱，他们拥有激情是肯定的。很多结婚多年的夫妻，连这点激情也耗尽了。黄渤饰演的武文学和谭卓饰演的张燕，是一对中年夫妻，有一个上中学的女儿，一家三口，柴米油盐，就像我们在小区遛弯碰到的邻居。看似和谐的夫妻关系却随着白光的出现而出现裂缝，或者说，裂缝早就存在，白光使它无所遁形。
夫妻二人都被光留下了，他们之间还有爱吗？武文学的母亲代表白光下了判词：“她不爱你了，你不爱她了，都不爱了。只有这几种可能嘛。”尽管武文学一直试图否认，内心却渐渐对两人之间的爱情产生了怀疑和动摇。作为优秀教师的武文学面对女同事的情感攻势始终没有越雷池一步，比起很多最终不欢而散的狗血夫妻，他们的关系简直堪称模范。
但另一方面，同一个屋檐下的两个人早已丧失激情，就连影片开头夫妻俩的床戏也在武文学职称评定的讨论中半途而废。这一场景像极了艾略特诗中所写的“谢天谢地，这事儿总算已经过去”。除了职称评定，夫妻俩好像再无交集，爱情如同在“荒原”中。
在白光的照耀下，这种平淡无味的夫妻关系已经难以称得上“爱情”。因此，武文学在女儿面前用“亲情”打着掩护，在同事朋友面前则制造着爱情还在的假象。反过来说，正因为匮乏才需要伪装。残忍的岁月给夫妻俩剩下的只有鸡毛蒜皮的琐事，除了孩子的学费和成绩、洗锅刷碗生活费，两个人再也想起不起其他共同话题。
爱情究竟在哪里？
究竟是什么将夫妻之间的爱情偷走了？当武文学发现妻子与女儿同学家长赵峰的暧昧短信后，或许一方面怒气填胸，一方面松了一口气，原来错不在我，妻子要为无爱的婚姻负责。或许妻子也无需负责，婚姻问题的症结在于那个第三者，把他赶跑，他们的婚姻就将焕然一新。因此，武文学找到赵峰信誓旦旦地说，若不是赵峰出现，他和妻子的感情不会出现裂痕。没想到，赵峰却反问：“你为什么以为你们俩的问题出在我身上，为什么不面对现实——你们就是不相爱了呢？”
赵峰一眼看穿了武文学的虚伪，“我以前和你一样虚伪，总觉得承认没有爱情，夫妻两个就没法互相面对 – 直到这道光出现，我突然觉悟了，这道光是最后的审判，它警告我们：不要再扯谎。它撕下我们所有人的伪装，人人平等，人人真实。”
对于信奉爱情是婚姻基础的人们而言，承认夫妻间已经没有爱情是艰难的，这意味着婚姻存在的合法性已经从根本上被动摇了。挽救婚姻还是挽救爱情？对很多人来说，两者好像鱼与熊掌难以兼得，要维持婚姻似乎就必须与爱情告别，而要寻找爱情就一定要忍受婚姻的破裂。武文学恰在此时收到女同事的表白短信，婚姻还是爱情？这是一个问题。
赵峰夫妻直面无爱婚姻的方法是既不挽救婚姻也不挽救爱情。既然伪装已经撕破，那就破罐子破摔，堕落到底。在婚姻的空壳下，他们公然过上了性滥交的生活。武文学被赵峰说服，承认自己和妻子之间无爱的事实，但对爱情仍心存期待，于是接受了女同事的表白，打算在婚姻之外重寻爱的激情。
不过，真爱在婚姻之外吗？这个问题导演藉着王珞丹所饰演的李楠给予了解答。白光发生时，李楠正在民政局门外等着与丈夫办离婚手续，丈夫却消失了。与丈夫一起消失的既不是自己，也不是丈夫出轨的小三。就这样，阴差阳错，李楠开始与小三一起追查丈夫消失的真相，要知道他的真爱究竟是谁。
在追查中，与丈夫发生感情纠葛的女人一个个出现，使她发现有关爱情的残酷现实。刚结婚的时候，丈夫觉得自己找到了梦想中的另一半，他爱李楠的独立。然而，时过境迁，李楠的独立渐渐成为丈夫眼中的缺乏情趣，爱慢慢消失。他开始从婚姻之外寻找爱。他爱上了小三的热情，却受不了对方的纠缠；丈夫开始从一个又一个关系中寻找爱情，无奈爱情总是捉摸不定，来去匆匆。通过不断换人的方式寻找爱情，如同饮鸩止渴。最终李楠的丈夫没有和任何一任情人一起消失，而是在车祸中意外去世。直到死时，丈夫都没能在任何一个人那里找到真爱。
拯救爱情之前先拯救自己
当李楠得知丈夫从一个个女人身上寻找爱情的时候，反而感觉很释放，原来问题不在自己，也不在小三，而是她丈夫“谁都爱，也就谁都不爱”。换言之，爱情消失的原因与其说是对方不再可爱，不如说是自己爱无能。
武文学和女同事开了房，也开始在婚姻之外的寻爱之旅。他未来将要面对的，或许和李楠的丈夫一样。但导演为武文学保留了一点反思的能力。武文学在酒店房间里等待女同事的过程中，既焦急又挣扎，一度想要逃跑。当他最终将女同事请进房间，才想明白在婚姻之外寻找拯救是徒劳的，因为一切的症结并不在别人身上，问题的根源是自己。
清除妻子的外遇对象，并不能拯救自己的婚姻；寻找另一段关系，也不能拯救自己的爱情，他所需要的是首先向自己下手。闯入夫妻生活之中的白光将自己的婚姻逼到墙角，他不能继续假装一切照常。就像这个冬春之交的瘟疫，也可以对你我的生活起到同样的效果。
“潜意识里面我是想说，我跟我老婆没被光带走的责任不在我。我把你约出来，可能是为了想报复吧，或者是其他的一些原因，可是我都是在考虑我自己。我是个伪君子。”武文学说，“我之前跟张燕吵架，我恨过她。甚至想着想着脑子就溜号了，会想她遭遇一些不好的画面；其实这些年我知道你喜欢我。经常面对你的时候，我甚至会想到一些不光彩的事情。慢慢意识到了以后，才会把想法收回来。我年轻的时候，有更多的龌龊的想法，那时候还会偷偷地自卑，会担心别人察觉到自己的想法，瞧不起自己。后来我慢慢开始原谅自己，用自我、本我、超我来解释这一切。”
听完武文学的自我剖析，女同事赞同道，“我们都太过自信了，觉得他人即地狱，自己呢？”“我们已经不相爱了”，是很多夫妻给自己的理由。武文学观察到的更深层的现实是“我们已经不相爱了，是因为我的脑子常常溜号，是因为我的想法充满龌龊。”更大的真相是“我是个自私的罪人”。无爱婚姻如何挽回？像赵峰一样夫妻一起陷入性堕落？像李楠的爱人一样，到婚姻之外到处追逐理想中的爱情？影片藉着武文学指向了第三条路：在婚姻中处理自己的问题。
武文学不仅反思自己做了什么，更重要的是反思了自己是怎样一个人。这段简短的自我反思，其实我们可能都不陌生。在和爱人吵架的时候，我们或许同样体验过自己里面爱的干涸，有时藉着对他人的幻想解决自己婚姻的困境。无论哪种情况，按照武文学所说，根源在于“我都是在考虑我自己。”镜头里那些被光剩下的人，本质上都在更多地爱自己，尽管披的外衣各不相同。
别再把人当作鱼来爱
当代犹太拉比A. J. 特韦尔斯基关于爱情有一番睿智的谈论。
“爱这个词在我们的文化里几乎已经失去了原有的含义。一位拉比遇见一个正在享用一餐鱼肉的年轻人，他问：‘年轻人，你为什么吃这条鱼？’年轻人说，‘因为我爱鱼。’他说，‘哦，你爱这条鱼。所以你将它从水里捞起来，杀了它然后煮了它。别告诉我你爱这条鱼，这不是爱，你爱的是你自己。你是觉得这条鱼鲜美可口，然后吃了它。’”
在特韦尔斯基看来，世界上多数所谓的爱情与故事中年轻人对鱼的爱类似。“当一对男女坠入爱河，这意味着什么？这意味着男子从女子身上看见了对方能够满足他生理和情感上的需求。而同时对方也认为自己能从男子身上感受到所谓‘爱’的东西。但双方只是在彼此身上寻找各自的需求，而不是对于对方的爱。对方变成了一个工具，为的是满足自己的需求。世上有太多所谓的‘爱情’，只不过是对鱼的那种爱。”特韦尔斯基认为真正的爱“不在于我要得到什么，而是在于我要付出什么。”
真正的爱一定是体验到一种忘我的快乐。而影片中的大多数夫妻已经失去了从为对方牺牲中得到快乐的能力。武文学的女同事说，“我们 – – 觉得他人即地狱，自己呢？”接着，她继续说，“谁能控制得了地狱呢？”藉女同事之口，导演或许要表达的是，这种只关心自己的爱需要拯救，可问题是拯救从哪里来呢？
现代流行的自我实现的伦理观会破坏婚姻。基督教神学家侯活士说：“这种伦理观认为，婚姻和家庭体制的目的主要是为了实现个人成就，为了让我们变得完整和幸福。这种理论假设：有一个人是最适合我们的，如果我们仔细去找，就能找到那个人；其实婚姻的要点是 – 学习如何关爱自己所嫁娶的那个陌生人。”
自我中心是很多婚姻中最具破坏力的问题，是婚姻中的癌症。美国牧师提摩太·凯勒认为，今天的文化宣扬的“以我为主的婚姻”是没有出路的，只有双方持续把对方的幸福放在自己的幸福之前，才能找到自己的幸福。
《圣经》在提到婚姻时，将之比作一个巨大的奥秘，它象征着耶稣和人类的关系。夫妻之爱最重要的表现是为对方牺牲，“爱是不求自己的益处”。这种不求自己益处的爱的来源就是基督。“耶稣 – 牺牲了一切，好叫我们与祂连合 – 这种做法彻底改变了我们的人生态度和生活方式。”凯勒的建议直接了当：“神在耶稣里为你做了什么，你就为配偶做什么，别的一切都会水到渠成。”
正如《境界》之前在互动话题“瘟疫时期的爱情”中，曾发出的一位女医生的心里话“我对疫情有信心，却对我们的感情没信心”。当白光闪过，当瘟疫消散，愿你我的余生都可以从爱的源头那里体会舍己的爱，并以此来爱我们身边的人。
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